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Coffee with The Couple Cure

Coffee with The Couple Cure

著者： Jay & Lori Pyatt
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Practical Tips to help your relationship, by the time you finish your first cup–with Relationship Mentors, Jay and Lori Pyatt©Jay and Lori Pyatt 人間関係 個人的成功 心理学 心理学・心の健康 社会科学 自己啓発 衛生・健康的な生活
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  • The Storms He Never Faced Became Yours

    The Storms He Never Faced Became Yours
    2026/07/16
    The storms your husband never dealt with didn't disappear. You're living inside some of them right now. If you're carrying the weight of betrayal trauma, you already know what it's like to live with a man who is physically present but emotionally gone. This whole series has been about the seven things a man builds to prepare for the storms of life. This is where I tell you what all of it was actually for, and why it matters so much to you. A man who never learned to face his losses doesn't escape them. He carries them. And what he carries lands on you, as emotional distance, numbness, resentment, a shorter temper than the moment deserves. I know, because for years I was that man. I lost a marriage, a career, people I loved, and I buried all of it. When Lori married me, she married a man who was checked out and didn't know why. That wasn't her fault. But she felt every bit of it. In this video I talk about how a husband in recovery who's still playing the victim will try to hand you the blame, for his mood, his distance, his losses, and why his storms are not your fault and not yours to fix. I talk about how to tell the difference between a man who is grieving and a man who is running, so you can trust what your intuition is already telling you. And I talk about why, even when every instinct says protect him, you actually want him to go through the storm instead of around it. A man who has grieved his losses can finally be present with you. A man who's still running never can. If you or someone you love is in crisis, call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (US). Next: we start naming the specific storms one by one, beginning with loneliness. If he's ready, send him to StormReadyMen.com to take the assessment. Explore the C.U.R.E. Method at TheCoupleCure.com. Timestamps 0:00 The storms he never faced 0:32 What the seven stones were for 1:10 My worst run of losses 2:33 If he's not facing his pain 3:09 How unfaced storms show up in him 3:35 What it looked like at home 5:26 What he does with the blame 6:33 The lie: it was all your fault 7:19 A victim hands you the blame 7:40 Not your fault, not yours to fix 8:11 Why you want him in the storm 8:45 Resilience: transformed, not spared 9:57 He stops making you carry it 9:58 This week: notice, don't manage 10:20 Next: the storm of loneliness --- Next Steps & Resources: • Explore the C.U.R.E. Method: https://thecouplecure.com • Join Storm Ready Men: https://stormreadymen.com • The Basics of Rebuilding Trust: https://jayandloripyatt.gumroad.com/l/LzMJm • New to the Channel? Start with our 5 seasons of foundational content here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLitabWxO9iDI1-ByymvBpwaiTB0sozSjL We want to hear from you—how can we best support you in this new season? Let us know in the comments. To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/28EfZh4vJ4yQbbwg6i57W02 -- Who is This Channel For? If your marriage has been impacted by addiction — whether you're the one struggling or the one carrying the pain — this channel is for you. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's compulsive pornography use. We found a way through it. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we help couples find the peace, trust, and connection they're looking for. #betrayaltrauma #marriagerecovery #rebuildingtrust #christianmarriage #mensmentalhealth
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    11 分
  • When His Health Isn’t Just His Problem

    When His Health Isn’t Just His Problem
    2026/07/02
    When he refuses to deal with his own health, it isn't just his problem. It lands on you too, and you already carry enough. Maybe you're the one tracking his appointments, noticing whether he's taking his meds, wondering if you have to manage his health on top of everything else. There's a difference between a man taking care of himself and a man numbing himself, and you can see it from the outside. Jay shares the story of a car his mom couldn't afford to fix, and the rule that shaped how he lived for years: if something rattles, turn up the radio. What that cost his health, his marriage, and Lori. Real health isn't about the gym. It's whether he sees a doctor, takes his medication, and stops assuming everything's fine. A rule that protects you: you can care about his health without becoming his nurse, and definitely not his mother. We also cover mental health, why men are more isolated and more at risk, and why talking to someone is not weakness. If you or someone you love is in crisis, call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (US). This is the last Foundation Stone. Next: the storms themselves. If he's ready, send him to StormReadyMen.com to take the assessment. Explore the C.U.R.E. Method at TheCoupleCure.com. Timestamps 0:00 His health becomes your load 0:44 There's a difference: taking care vs numbing 0:51 The radio story 2:05 What real health looks like 2:54 It's not your job to manage him 3:31 Mental health counts too 3:49 988 Crisis Lifeline 4:13 Stop treating his refusal as normal 5:17 Last foundation stone --- Next Steps & Resources: • Explore the C.U.R.E. Method: https://thecouplecure.com • Join Storm Ready Men: https://stormreadymen.com • The Basics of Rebuilding Trust: https://jayandloripyatt.gumroad.com/l/LzMJm • New to the Channel? Start with our 5 seasons of foundational content here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLitabWxO9iDI1-ByymvBpwaiTB0sozSjL We want to hear from you—how can we best support you in this new season? Let us know in the comments. To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/28EfZh4vJ4yQbbwg6i57W02 -- Who is This Channel For? If your marriage has been impacted by addiction — whether you're the one struggling or the one carrying the pain — this channel is for you. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's compulsive pornography use. We found a way through it. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we help couples find the peace, trust, and connection they're looking for.
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    5 分
  • Is He Resting or Checking Out? How to Tell

    Is He Resting or Checking Out? How to Tell
    2026/06/18
    When your husband says he needs rest, it can sound like one more excuse to check out. Here's how to tell real rest from another escape, without becoming the person who has to police him. If he's disappeared into screens, the game, or his phone before and called it rest, your guard goes up. That's fair. This video is about the difference between rest that actually restores him and avoidance dressed up as rest, and why the difference shows up in how he comes back to you, not in what he did while he was gone. A man who never rests stays agitated, reactive, and on edge, and all of that lands on you and the family. Real rest brings him back more present and easier to be around. Numbing-out sends him back more anxious and quicker to snap at something small. That return is your signal. You don't have to inspect him or quiz him about what he did. You watch how he shows up afterward. This one runs against instinct. Everything in you may say he should be doing more recovery work, more repair, more effort. But a man who never stops, who feels like he's always earning his place, stays stuck in busyness and gets harder to live with. Sometimes the recovery work itself becomes the new escape. Rest is how he refills the tank. A man with nothing left to give you needs it. Letting him take fifteen minutes outside isn't letting him off the hook. We also cover boundaries: rest with a time limit you both agree on, not one more way for him to disappear. And how, over time, rest stops being an activity and becomes a calmer way he carries himself, in traffic, under stress, at home, and when you ask him hard questions. If you're married to a man in recovery and you want him to have this, send him to StormReadyMen.com to take the assessment. It's built for him. Next: the final piece of the framework, physical health. Chapters 00:00 When his "rest" feels like checking out 00:11 Why this one is scary: him doing less 00:36 Real rest vs another escape 00:51 A man who never rests, and how it lands on you 01:06 What rest actually is 02:08 The box Lori asked me to build 02:51 The real sign: how he comes back 03:18 It only takes 15 to 20 minutes 03:50 Why you want him to rest (against instinct) 04:35 When recovery itself becomes the escape 05:07 Rest as conscious contact with God 05:38 Rest as refilling the tank 06:02 How short real rest can be 06:50 Rest as a frame of mind: the vacation story 07:56 What's not rest 08:16 Boundaries without policing him 09:04 Next: physical health Next steps and resources Next Steps & Resources: Explore the C.U.R.E. Method: https://thecouplecure.com Join Storm Ready Men: https://stormreadymen.com The Basics of Rebuilding Trust: https://jayandloripyatt.gumroad.com/l/LzMJm New to the Channel? Start with our 5 seasons of foundational content here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLitabWxO9iDI1-ByymvBpwaiTB0sozSjL We want to hear from you, how can we best support you in this new season? Let us know in the comments. To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar"): https://buy.stripe.com/28EfZh4vJ4yQbbwg6i57W02 Who is This Channel For? If your marriage has been impacted by addiction, whether you're the one struggling or the one carrying the pain, this channel is for you. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's compulsive pornography use. We found a way through it. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we help couples find the peace, trust, and connection they're looking for. #betrayaltrauma #marriagerecovery #rebuildingtrust #christianmarriage #addictionrecovery
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    10 分
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