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Coffee with The Couple Cure

Coffee with The Couple Cure

著者： Jay & Lori Pyatt
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Practical Tips to help your relationship, by the time you finish your first cup–with Relationship Mentors, Jay and Lori Pyatt©Jay and Lori Pyatt 人間関係 個人的成功 心理学 心理学・心の健康 社会科学 自己啓発 衛生・健康的な生活
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  • The Performance Is All His. The Work Is All Yours.

    The Performance Is All His. The Work Is All Yours.
    2026/10/08
    Do family gatherings leave you feeling completely exhausted while your husband gets all the praise? When visiting his family—especially around the holidays—an unspoken dynamic often takes over: you carry all the invisible emotional labor, logistical planning, and hosting stress, while he steps into the room as the composed "golden boy." Then, behind closed doors, you become the landing place for his anxiety, withdrawal, or frustration. In this video, we break down why this painful dynamic happens, how unprocessed family baggage gets dumped onto you, and how to protect your peace. In this video: - THE GOLDEN BOY: why he shines around his family while you handle everything - THREE MONTHS OF DREAD: what was really going on inside me before every visit - THE SHARED TOOL: expecting his family to act the same, so it can't surprise you twice - YOUR OWN PEOPLE: friends, an extra day, and time to yourself If you've ever done all the holiday work and watched him get the credit, this one's for you. Part of The Couple Cure. Companion episode on Storm Ready Men, for him. Timestamps: 0:00 Doing twice the work 0:19 Walking into a different family culture 0:39 His mood shifts before every visit 1:05 The golden boy 1:29 He lets you manage everything 1:51 What Lori handles every year 2:25 Before, during, and after the holidays 2:55 ⭐ The performance is all his 3:22 You are where his family pain lands 4:06 Three months of dread 5:07 What it cost us 5:18 What changed: going in with a plan 5:41 A shared tool between you 6:52 Refusing to let it surprise you twice 7:18 A day of downtime between families 7:46 What you're carrying 8:11 The weight of his betrayal 8:41 You need your own people 9:31 Boundaries: a few hours, one restaurant 9:52 If it's not going well: a day for you 10:09 Next time: the storm of failure --- Next Steps & Resources: • Explore the C.U.R.E. Method: https://thecouplecure.com • Join Storm Ready Men: https://stormreadymen.com • The Basics of Rebuilding Trust: https://jayandloripyatt.gumroad.com/l/LzMJm • New to the Channel? Start with our 5 seasons of foundational content here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLitabWxO9iDI1-ByymvBpwaiTB0sozSjL We want to hear from you—how can we best support you in this new season? Let us know in the comments. To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/28EfZh4vJ4yQbbwg6i57W02 -- Who is This Channel For? If your marriage has been impacted by addiction — whether you're the one struggling or the one carrying the pain — this channel is for you. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's compulsive pornography use. We found a way through it. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we help couples find the peace, trust, and connection they're looking for. #TheCoupleCure #HolidayStress #MarriageAdvice #inlaws "Southern Gothic" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ ISRC: USUAN2300004
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    11 分
  • The Best Way to Help Her See the Good Person Was to Own the Bad Person

    The Best Way to Help Her See the Good Person Was to Own the Bad Person
    2026/09/24
    The best way for me to help her see the good person in me was to own the bad person in me. That's the hardest thing I learned in recovery, and it's the whole point of this episode. If you've ever felt like you're walking on eggshells, managing his moods, or watching him be the nicest guy to every stranger while something completely different happens at home, this one's about what's actually going on and why your read on it is accurate, not unreasonable. This episode also covers a real safety concern. If you don't feel safe, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233. Part of The Couple Cure. Companion episode on Storm Ready Men, for him. thecouplecure.com Timestamps: 0:00 "The best way to help her see the good person was to own the bad person" 0:05 You've done nothing wrong 0:23 It may not be overt, it may be very subtle 1:15 Keeping up the image of the good family 1:24 The nicest guy to every stranger he meets 1:51 What I saw in my own childhood 3:10 The shoes by the front door 3:41 She wasn't managing his image, she was living inside it 3:49 Life after D-Day, and why it gets worse 4:22 "If you do this, I may relapse" 4:53 When he just walks out of the room 5:21 Why he needed her to see him a certain way 6:04 Getting between her and the door 6:14 Anger, intimidation, withdrawing, and the threat of relapse 7:28 This has a name: gaslighting 8:01 Your confusion is an accurate read 8:55 Owning the bad guy 9:20 The full circle: own the bad to be seen as good 9:34 If this is a safety issue (800-799-7233) 10:14 Why he won't take ownership of it himself 11:36 The pressure of bracing for one more outburst 11:50 Where to find your own circle of support 12:17 If you need to feel safe right now 12:32 Next: the storm of holidays and family gatherings --- Next Steps & Resources: • Explore the C.U.R.E. Method: https://thecouplecure.com • Join Storm Ready Men: https://stormreadymen.com • The Basics of Rebuilding Trust: https://jayandloripyatt.gumroad.com/l/LzMJm • New to the Channel? Start with our 5 seasons of foundational content here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLitabWxO9iDI1-ByymvBpwaiTB0sozSjL We want to hear from you—how can we best support you in this new season? Let us know in the comments. To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/28EfZh4vJ4yQbbwg6i57W02 -- Who is This Channel For? If your marriage has been impacted by addiction — whether you're the one struggling or the one carrying the pain — this channel is for you. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's compulsive pornography use. We found a way through it. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we help couples find the peace, trust, and connection they're looking for. #TheCoupleCure #MarriageHelp #MensMentalHealth #domesticabuseawareness #addictionrecovery "Southern Gothic" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ ISRC: USUAN2300004
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    13 分
  • He Ignores You When You Tell Him He’s Enough

    He Ignores You When You Tell Him He’s Enough
    2026/09/10
    You have told him he is doing enough. That he has achieved enough. And somehow it does not land. This one is personal for me. Lori had a name for what I used to do when I was stuck comparing myself to other men, and it was not flattering. I still catch myself doing it. This episode is about why your opinion of him does not seem to count when he is in that mindset, what it actually costs you while you wait for him to be satisfied, and the one thing about his value, and yours, that took me way too long to learn. If you have ever felt like you are competing with a version of him that only exists on social media, or with men he has never even met, this one's for you. Part of The Couple Cure's Storm series. Full companion episode on Storm Ready Men. Timestamps: 0:00 He ignores you, even when you tell him he's enough 1:00 What that actually feels like from where you stand 1:23 "Lori called it one upsmanship" 2:54 The sentence underneath it: "I'm failing" 3:14 This was never about Lori 3:24 The richest man on earth, and "just a little bit more" 5:06 What you actually need from him 6:07 The pornography comparison, and why it's a conversation for you too 8:44 The moment I saw the damage I had done 10:28 We are like $20 bills 12:03 "The version of him you've been asking for this whole time" 12:47 What finally moved me 12:53 "You've been asking him to stop measuring himself against people who aren't in the room" 13:04 If you need support right now 13:29 Next: the storm of control --- Next Steps & Resources: • Explore the C.U.R.E. Method: https://thecouplecure.com • Join Storm Ready Men: https://stormreadymen.com • The Basics of Rebuilding Trust: https://jayandloripyatt.gumroad.com/l/LzMJm • New to the Channel? Start with our 5 seasons of foundational content here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLitabWxO9iDI1-ByymvBpwaiTB0sozSjL We want to hear from you—how can we best support you in this new season? Let us know in the comments. To Say Thanks ("Tip Jar") - https://buy.stripe.com/28EfZh4vJ4yQbbwg6i57W02 -- Who is This Channel For? If your marriage has been impacted by addiction — whether you're the one struggling or the one carrying the pain — this channel is for you. Our marriage was nearly destroyed by Jay's compulsive pornography use. We found a way through it. Now, as Trauma-Trained Certified Mentors, we help couples find the peace, trust, and connection they're looking for. #TheCoupleCure #MarriageHelp #MaleAnger #BetrayalRecovery #MarriageRestoration #RelationshipAdvice #ChristianMarriage #HealingTogether "Southern Gothic" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ ISRC: USUAN2300004
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    14 分
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