In this episode, I’m joined by Claire.

Claire is a counsellor, a mother, a wife, and someone I studied with. She understands this work from the inside, not just professionally, but personally.

We sit inside authenticity, over responsibility, and rejection.

Not as concepts.
As lived relationship dynamics.

We talk about the illusion that therapy is about fixing other people and the reality that it becomes a mirror. A constant confrontation with your own patterns. Your own defences. Your own subtle violence.

We sit with what it costs to be fully authentic.

Not the cost of hiding.
The cost of actually showing up.

Claire shares something uncomfortable. In trying not to reject her husband, she was rejecting him in micro ways. Correcting. Reframing. Telling him what he really meant. Gaslighting without intending to.

We stay inside that tension.

How good intentions still wound.
How perfection creates distance.
How taking too much responsibility can become another defence.

This is not a conversation about getting it right.
It is about noticing where we create the very dynamic we say we do not want.

We do not fix it.
We do not wrap it up.

We leave it where it lives. In the complexity of two imperfect people trying to meet each other without weapons.

The question Claire leaves for the next guest is this.

What do you blame your partner for but secretly it suits you?

It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME In Session with a Psychotherapist
is a podcast about relationships, self avoidance, and the shit we pretend is not us.

Hosted by Chad Taylor, psychotherapist and author of
It’s You, Oh Fuck, It’s ME.

No tips.
No fixing.
Just honest conversations.

Claire is a Clinical Psychotherapist and can be found at:

Website - https://www.holisticcounselling.co.nz

Insta - holistic_counselling_cwelch

You can find my book here- https://chadtaylorpsychotherapy.com.au/book-sales

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Email- chadtaylorpsychotherapy@gmail.com