What happens when the people who raised you are… legends?

In this episode of Chat and Bother, Eva and Don discuss the pressure of growing up in the shadow of your parents' success — whether that success comes from family reputation, career expectations, or worldwide fame.

They talk about how early we're labeled, how often we're pushed toward paths we didn't choose, and how hard it can be to figure out who you really are when everyone already has a version of you in their head.

From everyday families to celebrity dynasties, the conversation explores:

• The weight of inherited expectations

• Why some kids feel trapped by their parents' success

• How fame multiplies pressure

• The difference between honoring a legacy and losing yourself to it

• Why carving your own identity is harder than it looks

Eva and Don compare their own upbringings with the public scrutiny faced by the children of famous icons, and unpack what it means to grow up with a name that comes with built-in assumptions.

As always, Chat and Bother isn't here to give you all the answers — it's here to start the conversation.

• Were you expected to become someone specific?
• Did your family's history shape your future?
• Did you break away and build your own path?

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In this episode of Chat and Bother, Don and Eva talk about the realization that a lot of the music they grew up loving does not age well when you actually listen to the lyrics as an adult. It is mind-blowing how popular music from the '80s, '90s, and early 2000s often normalized behavior that now feels creepy.

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How did themes like objectification, stalking, cheating, property destruction, and blurred lines around age and consent get treated as catchy, humorous, or romantic?

🎵 Songs and Artists Discussed

"You Remind Me of Something" – R. Kelly

"Private Eyes" – Daryl Hall & John Oates

"Do Me!" – Bell Biv DeVoe

"Bust Your Windows" – Jazmine Sullivan

"O.P.P." – Naughty by Nature

"It Wasn't Me" – Shaggy

Confessions – Usher

"Super Freak" - Rick James

Don and Eva also reflect on how parenthood, particularly having a daughter, has reshaped how they hear the music of their youth. They also discuss West Coast rap from artists like Too Short, Eazy-E, and The Dogg Pound, noting how difficult it is to find songs from that era that feel appropriate for children today.

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It's a SUPER EPISODE! Missed an episode or just discovering Chat and Bother? This Super Episode brings together Season 3, Episodes 1–4 in one binge-worthy hour, all centered on the biggest scandals and drama of the 1980s and 1990s. Press play, get caught up fast, and relive the headlines, chaos, and cultural moments that defined two unforgettable decades.

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00:00 - Welcome to episodes 1-4 02:27 - Tylenol murders (1982)

05:20 - Challenger explosion (1986)

13:36 - Jimmy Swaggart scandal (late 1980s)

18:28 - Milli Vanilli lip-sync scandal (late 1980s/early 1990s)

24:01 - Exxon Valdez oil spill (1989)

27:08 - Lorena Bobbitt (1993)

33:32 - Tanya Harding and Nancy Kerrigan (1994)

36:07 - Anita Hill and Clarence Thomas (1991)

39:08 - Monica Lewinsky and Bill Clinton (1998)

46:12 - Menendez brothers (early 1990s)

47:47 - O. J. Simpson low-speed chase and verdict (1994/1995)

54:57 - Princess Diana's death (1997)

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S1E1 - What Were the Most Memorable Scandals and News from the 80s?

S1E2 - How Much Do You Remember About Milli Vanilli?

S1E3 - WHY?! WHY?! Do You Remember These 90s News Stories That Changed Our Lives?

S1E4 - In the 80s and 90s we only talked about one scandal at a time.

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We wanted everything we saw in food commercials in the 1980s. In this episode of Chat and Bother, we're talking about the foods we begged for, tolerated, or absolutely hated—and the aggressive marketing that convinced us we needed them.

From fake butter spreads to questionable "health foods," we break down which products actually lived up to the hype and which ones were straight-up lies sold to our parents during Saturday morning cartoons.

This episode pulls no punches as we roast:

• Carob, the so-called "healthy chocolate" that tasted like brown candle wax

• Black licorice, a candy nobody asked for that somehow still exists

• Whoppers, which may or may not have been chocolate-covered packing foam

• Steak-umms, the after-school DIY cheesesteak staple (ketchup-only households, stand up)

• Sizzlean, the "lean bacon" that disappeared amid claims it was anything but lean

• Pepperidge Farm broccoli & cheese pastries, the breakfast reward worth waking up early for

• Slim Fast, the mysterious shake marketed harder than it ever delivered

• Jell-O Pudding Pops, the frozen treat siblings fought over in the freezer

If you grew up in the 80s, this episode will unlock memories you forgot you had—along with a few foods you're glad no longer exist.

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Remember when the news only came on at 6 and 11—and one scandal could completely dominate the country for months? In this episode, we take a deep (and sometimes hilarious) dive into the most unforgettable scandals of the 1980s and 1990s, back when tabloids ruled, celebrity justice looked very different, and America watched history unfold in real time. We talk about how news spread before 24-hour cable, social media, and citizen journalism—and why scandals from that era hit harder and stayed with us longer.

In this episode:

- Why the 80s and 90s were a TIME for nonstop scandals

- The Menendez Brothers case and the shocking motive behind it

- The O.J. Simpson trial, the white Bronco chase, and "If it doesn't fit…"

- LAPD corruption, Mark Fuhrman, and why the verdict felt bigger than the case

- How Robert Kardashian connects this trial to pop culture history - Celebrities, power, and how fame lets people "get away with it"… sometimes literally

- Why consequences for figures like R. Kelly and Diddy only came after video evidence and documentaries

- How modern media makes an "unbiased jury" almost impossible

- The global shock of Princess Diana's death and the rise of paparazzi culture

- When tabloids like the National Enquirer and Globe controlled celebrity narratives

- A completely unnecessary—but passionate—debate about Delaware, chicken, chemicals, corporations, and questionable scents

This episode is equal parts nostalgia, cultural commentary, and side-eye, with the kind of conversations only people who lived through it can have.

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If you were alive in the 90s, you felt these moments — even if you didn't fully understand them at the time. In this episode of Chat and Bother, we revisit three explosive news stories that stopped classrooms, dominated dinner-table conversations, and reshaped how a generation consumed the news.

We break down the Clinton impeachment hearings surrounding Monica Lewinsky, revisit the Clarence Thomas and Anita Hill confirmation hearings that forced uncomfortable conversations into American homes, and relive the shocking Tonya Harding–Nancy Kerrigan incident that turned figure skating into headline news.

Why did these stories hit so hard? Why were we watching them in real time as kids and teens? And why do they still spark debate decades later? From media frenzy to lasting cultural impact, we unpack how these moments helped define the 90s — and us.

Press play, relive the chaos, and ask yourself the same question we still do: WHYYYYYY?! WHYYYYYY?!

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This week on Chat and Bother, we're rewinding to a time when the news didn't just break—it spilled, fell apart, and in one case… got cut short.

We're unpacking three of the most can-you-believe-this-was-real stories from the 80s and 90s:

- the Exxon Valdez oil spill, when corporate responsibility ran aground and cleanup plans clearly weren't shipshape;

- Milli Vanilli, who taught us that sometimes the music hits… but the truth skips;

- and Lorena Bobbitt, a story so shocking it had America clutching pearls, cracking jokes, and learning way more anatomy than anyone asked for. T

hese headlines dominated classrooms, talk shows, and dinner tables, shaping how we learned to distrust big companies, pop stars, and the phrase "based on a true story." We break down what really happened, how the media ran with it, and why these moments still live rent-free in our Gen X brains.

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Do you remember the Tylenol Murders (now a Netflix movie!)? Where were you when the Space Shuttle Challenger exploded? What do you remember about the most famous 80s televangelists? Welcome to the season premiere of the Chat and Bother Podcast!

We are kicking off this season with some of the news that Gen Xers remember. Back when news came on at 6 and 11, and the TV went off at the end of the day, remember that? Weigh in and tell us how old you were when these were the top news stories, and how these stories changed how you think about the world today.

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