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What happens when an abusive parent grows old?

For many survivors of narcissistic abuse, this is one of the most complicated questions they'll ever face. Society tells us to honor our parents, but very few people talk about what happens when those parents were the source of lifelong trauma.

In Part 1 of this conversation, Katherine shares the story that led to one of the hardest decisions of her life. She opens up about growing up with a malignant narcissistic father and a covert narcissistic mother, becoming a cycle breaker for her own children, and the unexpected phone call that changed everything.

After years of estrangement, Katherine and her siblings suddenly found themselves responsible for navigating the legal system, healthcare, finances, and elder care after her father attempted to kill her mother. What followed challenged everything she thought she knew about boundaries, responsibility, and protecting her own peace.

This episode begins an honest conversation about something few people are talking about: caring for aging abusive parents.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Growing up with narcissistic and abusive parents
• Becoming a cycle breaker for the next generation
• Why childhood trauma can remain hidden for decades
• The role of healthy relationships in healing
• Going no contact with abusive parents
• The phone call that changed everything
• Being thrust into managing aging parents' legal, medical, and financial affairs
• Survivor guilt, family expectations, and protecting your peace
• Why there isn't just one "right" way to navigate caring for abusive parents

If you've ever wondered what happens after going no contact, or you've worried about what you'll do when an abusive parent can no longer care for themselves, this conversation is for you.

Be sure to subscribe because in Part 2, Katherine shares practical options survivors have, why you don't have to choose between abandoning your parent and sacrificing yourself, and the resources she's creating to help others facing these impossible decisions.

Reasources mentions

Kong, J., Kunze, A., Goldberg, J., & Schroepfer, T. (2021).
"Caregiving for Parents Who Harmed You: A Conceptual Review."
Clinical Gerontologist, 44(5), 507–519.
DOI: 10.1080/07317115.2021.1920531

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