Episode 41

Join Camilla and I while we are in the car to a Festival in Sweden to see our love, Zara Larsson <3 She is beauty, she is grace, she is Sweden´s best thang <3

So apologies for the sound but enjoy it as a very AUTHENTIC conversation. .

In this episode, I’m joined by Camilla to talk about the emotional rollercoaster of hot-and-cold dating behavior.

We share our own experiences with overthinking, mixed signals, and the anxiety that comes when someone suddenly pulls away.

We discuss why it’s important to stop guessing, look at someone’s actions, communicate directly when you need clarity, and trust your gut when the effort isn’t mutual.

Ultimately, our advice is simple: know your worth, set boundaries, and don’t settle for breadcrumbs.

But like many things in life, easier said than done...

Episode 40

In this episode, I reflect on whether it’s ethical to bring children into the world.

Growing up as a refugee in a single-parent household shaped the way I see parenthood. I witnessed firsthand how difficult it can be to raise children without financial stability, emotional support, or a wider community to rely on. For me, becoming a parent is inseparable from having a loving, dependable partner and creating a safe and stable home.

I question the pressure many of us feel to have children, and whether we truly understand the lifelong responsibility that comes with bringing another human being into the world.

Using Passengers (2016) as an ethical metaphor, I ask: is it fair to bring someone into a world filled with pain, inequality, uncertainty, and suffering when they never had a say in being here?

And yet, this isn’t an episode about not loving children. I do. I believe I could be a loving and caring mother—but only if I can give a child the security, support, stability, and love every child deserves.

Because perhaps the question isn’t simply, “Do you want children?”

Maybe it’s: “Can you give a child the life they deserve?”

Episode 39

Some love stories don’t end when the relationship ends, they keep echoing across years, cities, and versions of yourself. I with my longtime friend Steffie unpack the unforgettable New York romance that started on a cheap Chinatown bus, turned into a whirlwind of cab rides, late-night texting, and secret-door dates, and still shapes how they think about love today.

What begins as a funny travel memory turns into a deeply personal conversation about attraction, timing, and the kind of connection you only recognize in hindsight. I revisit the guy who changed my idea of courtship forever, while Steff, the friend who witnessed it all from day one, adds the outside perspective that makes the story hit even harder.

You’ll hear about:

• The chaotic $100 Chinatown bus trip from New York to Washington, Buffalo, Philadelphia, and Niagara Falls
• The unexpected lobby phone call that brought the “right” guys down from the bus
• The instant chemistry, banter, and age-gap tension that made everything feel like a movie
• Why the romance felt so magical in New York, and why it became painful later
• The hard-earned lesson about not living in fantasy, not overcorrecting in dating, and not judging your younger self too harshly

I also reflect on how this story inspired my writing, including my upcoming New York love story, We’ll Always Have New York.

Steff brings the grounded, supportive perspective of a true friend who saw the connection unfold in real time and still believes in what it meant.

If you love romantic real-life stories, “how did this even happen?” moments, or honest reflections on love after heartbreak, this episode will pull you in fast. It’s warm, funny, messy, and painfully relatable, the kind of conversation that reminds you why some memories never really leave you.

Episode 38

This episode is a heartfelt conversation about gratitude, kindness, and the importance of noticing the small good things in life.

Malsora shares how becoming a mother made her more aware of everyday blessings, supportive parents, loving family, helpful colleagues, and a caring partner. The discussion highlights that real love often shows up in small actions, like helping with the kids, checking in on friends, or offering encouraging words. The episode also touches on luck, emotional support, and how gratitude can shift your mood and help you focus on what’s going right, even on difficult days.

In the end, the message is simple: if you reflect on the little good moments each day, you’ll start to see how much you already have.

Episode 37

Anita joins Lena Rexhepi for an honest conversation about growing up Albanian in Greece and the feeling of being caught between cultures Albanian in Greece, yet seen as Greek when returning to Albania.

She opens up about the fear, isolation, bullying, and pressure she experienced as a child, including the difficulty of speaking openly about her background. Together, Anita and Lena explore the lasting impact of migration, stereotypes, and rejection, both from wider society and from within your own community.

They also talk candidly about cultural expectations placed on women, marriage, family, success, and the ways we can learn to normalize suffering and stay silent about painful experiences.

For Anita, moving to London became a turning point. It gave her the space to explore her identity more freely, let go of some of the shame she had carried, and build a deeper relationship with her parents.

The episode ends with a powerful message for anyone who has ever felt caught between cultures: start by belonging to yourself, and give your fears a voice.

Episode 36BETRAYAL Trust, Love & the Cost of Overgiving

What happens when you love people wholeheartedly, show up for them again and again, and eventually realize the relationship has become deeply one-sided?

In this episode, I unpack betrayal, loyalty, overgiving, and the painful realization that love alone isn't always enough to sustain a relationship. I talk about why I meet people with “innocent until proven guilty” rather than suspicion, even after being betrayed, and why I refuse to let disappointment turn me into someone who lives with her armor permanently on.

I reflect on the patterns I've experienced across friendships, family, romantic relationships, and work: giving too much, asking for too little, and then experiencing a delayed realization of just how deeply I've been hurt. Because sometimes I'm so used to saying “I'm fine, I'll take care of myself” that I don't immediately recognize when I am the one who needed care.

I've learned that I can love hard without loving blindly. “My love is big and real, but so is my pattern recognition.” And when trust, loyalty, honesty, and reciprocity repeatedly disappear, eventually something in me breaks.

I would rather hear the hurtful truth than live in a pleasant lie for ten years. I would rather walk away than keep performing a relationship that no longer feels genuine. And sometimes, choosing yourself means making a decision that feels absolutely awful.

Because you can make the right decision and still feel shitty about it.

This is an episode about betrayal, boundaries, discernment, and learning that the love you give to others cannot come at the expense of the love and respect you owe yourself.

Episode 35

A little conversation about Kaltrinë from Germany and Lena from Denmark and how they met in banking and bonded over their Albanian roots.

What does it take to build a life, a career, and a company across borders and still stay authentic? Kaltrinë and Lena unpack the realities of growing up as a Kosovo refugee in Germany, navigating identity between cultures, and turning years of experience into a business of her own. Kaltrinë shares how language, family, and environment shape identity, why some people feel more German in Kosovo and more Albanian in Germany, and how a strong sense of belonging can come from both heritage and lived experience. The conversation also gets personal as Lena and Kaltrinrë revisit how they met in Copenhagen, the work that brought them together, and why that connection still matters a decade later.You’ll discover:

• Why keeping Albanian language alive can be a lifeline for identity
• How childhood environment changes the refugee experience
• What it means to feel “German” in Kosovo and “Albanian” through language, music, and tradition
• Why authenticity matters so much in sales, networking, and relationships
• What inspired Kaltrinë to leave stable employment and start her own company
• The hidden role luck, timing, and connections play in success

Kaltrinë also opens up about the pressure of balancing motherhood, travel, financial risk, and entrepreneurship, and why building something of your own can be both terrifying and deeply rewarding. Lena adds her own perspective on identity, naming, and belonging, making this a thoughtful conversation about ambition, roots, and the people who shape our path.Essential listening if you care about immigrant identity, women in business, career reinvention, or the quiet power of staying true to yourself while building a future from scratch.

Episode description

In this episode I talk about being the eldest daughter and what the eldest daughter syndrome means.

• being parentified as the oldest daughter
• growing up as an immigrant/refugee daughter
• becoming the caretaker for siblings and parents
• carrying responsibility into school, work, and relationships
• struggling with boundaries, people-pleasing, guilt, and resentment
• learning to ask for help and prioritize my own needs

I reflect on how this dynamic affects love, family expectations, motherhood, and self-worth, and ends with a call to check on eldest daughters and give them unconditional love and support.