In this episode, Emma and Andy discuss their relationship with control. We admit at the start that we feel a bit nervous because it’s a topic that we’re both feeling challenged by at the moment.

Emma opens up about wanting to change the kind of work she offers but not knowing what it will look like yet. This means she’s decided to let go of her impulse to plan what her work looks like for the rest of the year, and trust that it will become clearer. She talks about how being in that state of uncertainty can feel very uncomfortable.

Andy shares about some of the areas of his life he feels an urge to control and how hard it can feel to let go of getting the result that he wants when it comes to money, health and family.

We also discuss:

- Why trying to controlling things often backfires, and we get the opposite of what we wanted

- Approaches to letting go of trying to force the outcomes you want, so that you can open to unexpected positive results.

- How to discern when you’re making a decision out of anxiety

- How to develop tolerance for being in uncertainty

- Finding the balance between doing what you can do influence the result you want without being stressfully attached to the outcome

Upcoming courses with Emma:

https://www.empathart.com/events-1/authentic-compassionate-relating-6-x-mondays-pm-nvc-level-1

Work with Andy:

https://andyhix.com/