Why do we keep doing what we know is wrong—and why does shame convince us to hide it instead of bringing it into the light?

If you’re tired of repeating the same patterns and then spiraling into shame, this episode maps a way back to truth—and back to the people who can help you heal.

Liza and Tim talk honestly about “besetting” (habitual) sin—those stuck places where you look up and think, “What just happened?” They explore how repeated choices can dull our spiritual sensitivity, and how shame grows when we carry sin alone in secrecy. Tim offers a pastoral rhythm: identify the lie driving the pattern, write it down, and pair it with Scripture and trusted community so truth can reshape what you believe—and therefore what you do.

Key Takeaways

• Habitual sin often includes a “what just happened?” moment—patterns can form even when we know better.
• Shame isolates by whispering “hide this,” but healing grows when it’s brought into the light with others.
• What you believe shapes what you do—so identify the lie beneath the behavior.
• Replace the lie with truth: write the lie down and place Scripture underneath it as a practiced rhythm.
• Don’t do this alone—bring it to a trusted friend/mentor and into Christian community.

Action Steps

• Name the pattern (the “besetting” place) without excuses or self-hatred.
• Ask: “What did I believe that led me here?” and write that lie down.
• Find Scripture that contradicts the lie and write the truth beneath it.
• Bring it to someone trusted (friend, elder, mentor) and invite prayer + perspective.
• Take one small step toward the light—in prayer or honest conversation—remembering healing isn’t always linear.