What does it really mean to feel “lost” in your twenties?

In this episode, Ben shares a real coaching conversation (published with permission) with a young adult navigating uncertainty about direction, identity, and next steps.

Instead of rushing to pick a path, the conversation explores a different idea: building identity capital.

You’ll hear how value-focused decision making shifts the focus from reacting to options to designing a direction. Rather than asking “What job should I take?” the deeper question becomes “Who am I becoming?”

This session explores:

• Why feeling behind is often a signal of growth • The difference between alternative-focused and value-focused decisions • How identity capital compounds over time • Why clarity often emerges through action, not analysis

If you’ve ever felt pressure to have everything figured out, this conversation will challenge that assumption.

Once you're clear about your values, you can narrow the search using the "value-filter," In this way, when you apply to a job - or "create your own job" based on values - you'll have a feeling of clarity and confidence. When you connect your values to your work, it's energizing.

Take 10 minutes and reflect on the following:

• Where do you feel most engaged and alive? • What environments or activities consistently drain you? • Do you gain energy from being with people and in motion — or from focused, independent work?

These patterns are not random. They are signals.

Next, ask yourself:

• What identity capital am I building right now? – Skills – Relationships – Experiences – Reputation

• Is the identity capital I’m building intentional, or accidental?

You may not control all outcomes yet. But you can control what you are building. Clarity often follows construction.

Reach out for an exploratory 30-minute session Ben@20Something.Tools