In this special bonus episode of And Now Love, Cynthia Marks sits down with Dr. Loren Weiner for a focused Q&A on dreams, the unconscious, and how inner life shapes the world we live in. Loren defines the unconscious as a deep well that holds everything we’ve experienced—pain, joy, memory, and meaning—and even our potential connection to the divine. She explains why you can’t “prove” the unconscious like a lab result, but you can experience it through dreamwork and free association, where hidden connections become undeniable. They address a common fear: “What if my dreams open floodgates?”—and Loren reassures listeners that what’s buried is already impacting us; looking simply helps us place it correctly and choose wisely. Loren also outlines how life begins in utero in an “unconscious-to-unconscious” emotional conversation with the mother (and the father’s unconscious as well), shaping the baby’s sense of entitlement to love, safety, and success. The conversation turns toward responsibility and culture: treating women well, giving them a seat at the table, and building a society where love—not money and power—becomes the main goal. Cynthia closes with a personal story about her childhood love of new shoes, which later clicked as an unconscious echo of her mother’s poverty—showing how the unconscious reveals itself even outside dreams.

0:26 — Bonus Q&A: What Is the Unconscious?

3:06 — How do you know the unconscious exists?

5:14 — Why should I look to my dreams to heal?

6:57 — Significance of the Mother-Child Relationship

13:41 — What can men do to bring more love?

17:41— Do signs of our unconscious show up in our conscious, waking lives?