Relationships are not actually about other people.
They are about the thoughts we think about other people.

And that is incredible news.

Because it means that even when another person doesn’t change, even when circumstances don’t shift, even when history is complicated… you still have agency. You can change the entire emotional climate of a relationship by changing the way you think, feel, and show up inside of it.

In this episode, we explore why it only takes one person in a relationship shifting their inner world to transform the dynamic between two people. And we walk through exactly how that works at the level of thoughts, emotions, nervous system, behavior, and connection.

You’ll learn why:

• Thoughts create our body language, tone, and the emotional safety or distance in our relationships
• How all of that becomes contagious in relationship
• We break down how negative thought loops become self-fulfilling prophecies
• How those thoughts quietly shape our body language and the other person’s subconscious response to us
• How thoughts gather more evidence that looks like them.
• How people who believe they are liked tend to be more likable
• Couples who believe their relationship is special tend to create relationships that actually are
• Take responsibility for your side of the street
• Practical tools for cleaning up our side of the street in relationships, so that we have have more love, connection and joy

Relationships are everything, and you have far more power in them than you were ever taught.

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• On the Web | The Local Bloom
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• All Things Marie on LinkTree

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We love the romantic idea of inspiration striking.
The muse arrives. The energy shifts. We suddenly feel like creating, reaching out, working out, having the hard conversation, writing the email, going on the date, taking the leap.

But real artists, real writers, real leaders, real change-makers, and the people who actually achieve the big dreams they’re cooking up know the truth:
You don’t wait to feel like doing the thing.
You get yourself to the place where you can do the thing by shifting your emotional state.

Painters go to the studio even after brutal critiques.
Writers sit down and write even when the page feels dead.
We don’t wait to “feel like” exercising, sending the email, or putting ourselves out there. We move first, and the feeling follows.

In this episode, we apply that same principle to something even more powerful: your emotional state.

So many of us unconsciously believe we’re supposed to feel good naturally—and that something has gone wrong if we don’t. But the human experience is 50/50. Half joy, half struggle. Add in our brain’s negativity bias and environmental stressors, and it makes perfect sense that we don’t wake up in a great emotional place every day.

The problem isn’t feeling negative.
The problem is waiting for it to change on its own.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• Why waiting to feel motivated, confident, connected, or calm keeps us stuck
• How emotions become habitual neural patterns that replay automatically
• Why unshifted emotions run our behavior and leak into our relationships
• How negativity becomes contagious through tone, body language, and energy
• How small emotional states snowball into full-blown emotional climates (the “rings of a tree” effect)
• Real examples from coaching: body image, relationships, anxiety, self-doubt, and morning emotional states

The Core Skill: Emotional Shifting

Instead of letting your emotional state dictate your actions, you learn to:

• Notice and accept what you’re feeling
• Observe the thoughts creating the feeling
• Let the emotion move through your body without judging it
• Intentionally shift into a state that better supports how you want to live and lead

We explore tools like:

• Thought trading
• Environmental shifts
• Movement and nervous system resets
• In-the-moment “thought prophecies”
• Looking for what you like instead of what you fear
• Asking, “How could the opposite be true?” (Byron Katie style)
• Building a daily “emotional warm-up” practice that trains your brain like a muscle

Because when you learn to shift your emotional state, three powerful things happen:
You stop repeating old patterns.
You stop acting from emotions you didn’t choose.
You stop unconsciously spreading the very energy you don’t want to live in.

You don’t wait for the clouds to part.
You learn how to move the weather.

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

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Lately, I’ve been getting the same question over and over: How did you become so successful, so fast?

And when people ask that, they usually mean the numbers. Yes, I left a career in the innovation field, started my own coaching and leadership practice, and made $360K in my first year. Four years later, it’s a million-dollar business. But the real success wasn’t financial.

The real success was this:
Creating a vision for a whole new version of my career and myself…
Diving in headfirst off a high dive…
Committing fully, going deep, moving fast, and never looking back.

I had never owned a business before. I had always been a leader inside organizations. So from the outside, it looked like an anomaly. But from the inside, it was the result of very specific inner and outer work.

In this episode, I walk you through exactly what made the difference.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode

Why belief is everything.
Just like my son picking up a guitar and declaring, “I’m a guitarist,” the people who move quickly are the ones who allow themselves to be who they are becoming before they have proof.

How to clean up the mind.
Our thoughts create our emotions, our actions, our results—and then we collect evidence to prove whatever we already believe. To build a new future, we have to deliberately change the belief system, not just the behavior.

Why your energy is your most precious resource.
Your time, focus, and life force are not free. When you stop leaking energy in every direction and start investing it intentionally, everything accelerates.

How to work with the subconscious.
The brain filters out opportunities that don’t match what it believes is possible. Through visualization, emotional processing, and unconscious reprogramming, you train your nervous system to recognize the future you’re creating as “safe” and “real.”

Why you must be willing to feel anything.
Fear, doubt, cringe, imposter syndrome—none of these are problems when you know how to feel them without letting them stop you.

How to use the same process innovators use.
Vision. Iteration. Obstacle strategy. Milestones. Aligned daily action. A simple, regenerative system that turns ideas into reality.

Why community changes everything.
Being in rooms with high-level, high-vibration women leaders raises your nervous system, your standards, your belief in what’s possible. You rise to the level of the room.

This is the exact recipe I’ve used to:

• Go from burned out and broke to building a million-dollar business
• Create time freedom and deep family connection
• Transform my body, my relationships, and my leadership
• Live a life that includes snowy mountain days with my kids and beach strategy sessions with women CEOs

It’s also the exact work I teach inside the Moxie Mastermind.

Because the world needs women leaders right now.
There is no more waiting.
And I am all-in on helping women rise.

So I’ve made my journey from burned out to blissed out, the thing I’m doing to help other women, teaching the three steps I took to get here.

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!