Beyond our own expectations, there are the expectations that are placed on us by others. Those societal expectations weigh even heavier in certain cultures, and going against the grain can mean more than just a side-eye from a stranger.
For Cassindy Chao, being a second-generation Asian American whose parents moved to the states from Taiwan came with a lot of unspoken expectations.
“I was born in Queens, and my parents were very much about education; go to good schools, study hard, you know, be in the sciences or whatever,” Chao said. “And it didn't gel with me. I flunked out of my calculus class. I flunked out of chemistry. Clearly, that wasn't the path.”
Despite the failing grade in calculus, Chao found herself studying numbers; double majoring in Chinese studies and economics. The combination led to huge success in the banking industry- working on Wall Street and then Hong Kong at big-name institutions like JP Morgan and Goldman Sachs.
“Everyone thought I was really good at numbers. The reality was, I'm really not very good at numbers,” Chao joked. “I'm okay, not great. I always just didn't feel like I shined there. I'd be in meetings and it's very hardcore… I’d sit there in meetings, having worked all night, but just being so bored. So bored.”
She worked in finance for ten years, but said she never loved it.
“It didn’t resonate with me,” Chao said. “I was having much more fun just thinking about who and who would be great dates, and who would match better.”