Navigating Betrayal and the Passion Paradox

In this episode, I’m joined by US-based psychologist and author Bruce Chalmer to discuss the deep mechanics of betrayal, intimacy, and the Passion Paradox. We dive into what happens when a partner transitions, why society forbids women from feeling betrayed, and how to tell the difference between ideas and ideology.

We discuss:

The 7-Word Formula: Why "Be Kind, Don’t Panic, and Have Faith" is the foundation of successful relationships.

Betrayal vs. Hurt: Why a betrayal makes you doubt your own sanity and judgment.

The Stability/Intimacy Paradox: Why the very things that make a marriage stable can often kill the intimacy.

Ideology as a Mind-Killer: How gender ideology (and religious ideology) turns humane ideas into oppressive caricatures.

Sexual Peaks in your 70s? Why maturity is more important than hormones for deep connection.

Find Bruce Chalmer here: https://brucechalmer.com/
Bruce’s Books: Betrayal and Forgiveness, The Passion Paradox.

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