This week is about relationships, how to know if someone is actually right for you, and whether you're being too picky or holding out for what you really want.

Our guest is Beverly Teller, Ben's mom, a longtime therapist, and one of the most requested guests we've had on the show. She's also been giving Kevin “free therapy” around the dinner table for years.

We get into what makes a relationship right for you, what you should and shouldn't compromise on, and how to tell the difference between having standards and protecting yourself from getting hurt. Kevin opens up about what he was looking for in a partner, the pressure he put on himself to become “good enough,” and what dating taught him about himself.

We also talk about healthy conflict, why relationships don't need to be free of disagreement, and how to know when you're fighting to be right instead of trying to understand each other.

If you've ever wondered whether you're settling, asking for too much, or just afraid to take the risk, this episode is for you.

New episodes every Thursday. Follow on the iHeart app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts and on Instagram at @freetherapy.

And as a reminder, we are not therapists, and while this may feel like therapy, it's not. So if you're struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional who can help.

0:00 Intro to Ben's mom
10:30 Are you in the right relationship?
17:32 Am I being too picky?
23:02 What should I look for in a partner?
32:15 What is holding Kevin back?
44:56 Secret to a lasting marriage

45:30 Why commitment can feel scary

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