Episode 5: Becoming the Woman You Were Always Afraid to Be (featuring Lily Shepard)

In this powerful conversation, Hannah sits down with somatic executive coach Lily Shepard to talk about identity, the body, divorce, desire, and what it really means to become the woman you were meant to be.

Lily shares her own traumatic divorce experience, how identity collapses when the “wife” role disappears, and how reconnecting to the body creates space for safety, clarity, and authentic expansion.

They unpack:

• why most women run from something, not toward something

• the collapse that happens when identity is built on roles

• how to rediscover pieces of yourself you abandoned in marriage

• practical somatic tools for grounding and self-safety

• why joy feels terrifying

• the radical truth: “I want more” is a complete sentence

This episode will challenge you, comfort you, and offer a roadmap for the next version of yourself.

Hannah and Lily talk about how women evolve, and why identity shouldn’t be pinned down for other people’s comfort.

TIMESTAMPS & KEY MOMENTS

0:00 — Living Out Loud

2:07 — Identity Isn’t Fixed

3:55 — The Identity Collapse of Divorce

5:48 — Clinging to the Old Life

7:30 — Running From vs. Running Toward

9:44 — Bitter or Better

12:38 — Identity Built on Others

14:03 — Reclaiming What You Abandoned

19:11 — What Somatic Work Really Means

21:22 — Imagining the Woman You’re Becoming

24:08 — The Body as the Way Home

27:36 — Writing a Letter to Your Body

30:29 — Desire, Shame & “The Lion Inside”

34:01 — The Sentence Divorce Forces Out of You: “I Want More.”

39:23 — Practical Tools for Feeling Safe Again

42:58 — The Hardest Part: Letting Good Things In

47:55 — Best-Case-Scenario Thinking

51:48 — Divorce as a Superpower

Work with Lily:
Somatic Executive Coaching for high-achieving women rebuilding identity, safety, and desire

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Mentioned In This Episode

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OurFamilyWizard (OFW)
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My Confident Divorce (MCD)
Hannah’s community + coaching for women navigating divorce, identity, and rebuilding their lives.
https://myconfidentdivorce.com

Hembree Bell Law Firm (HBLF)
Modern, tech-forward Texas family law representation that protects your peace, your kids, and your future.
https://hembreebell.com

This podcast and its show notes are for educational and informational purposes only.
Nothing in this episode constitutes legal advice, mental health advice, or financial advice. Every situation is unique, and listeners should consult with a licensed professional in their state before making decisions related to divorce, parenting, finances, or mental health.

If you feel unsafe at any point in your relationship, please contact a local domestic violence hotline or emergency services. Your safety matters.