Talking about sex can feel awkward—even with the person you love most. But avoiding the conversation doesn't make the issues disappear. It often creates more distance.

In this episode, Dr. Kim and Nancy have an honest, grace-filled conversation about building a healthy sexual relationship through open communication, emotional safety, and mutual respect. They share lessons from their own marriage, discuss why every couple experiences different seasons of intimacy, and offer practical ways to have conversations about sex without shame, fear, or defensiveness.

Whether you've been married for six months or sixty years, this episode will encourage you to communicate with honesty, pursue one another with love, and create an environment where intimacy can continue to grow.

Main Takeaways:

Every marriage experiences different seasons of intimacy—and that's normal.

The healthiest conversations about sex happen when both spouses feel safe, heard, and respected.

Comparison is one of the quickest ways to create dissatisfaction in your marriage.

Small, honest conversations build stronger intimacy than avoiding difficult topics.

A thriving sex life isn't about perfection—it's about pursuing one another with love, grace, and intentionality.

Quotes from this Episode:

"Our marriage is not just about sex. It's about all of life, and our intimacy has to fit the season we're in."

"When you approach conversations about sex with love instead of criticism, you're setting your marriage up to grow instead of to fail."

"Don't compare your marriage to Hollywood or someone else's story. You have to define what works best for the two of you."

"Stay at the comfort level of the person who's least comfortable. There's always another way to build intimacy together."

"It's not really about the quantity of sex—it's about the quality of the connection."

"The goal isn't proving who's right. The goal is making your marriage better together."

"We've always approached these conversations with love, not a critical spirit."

"Nothing is more personal than your own body, so sharing it with someone else is the ultimate vulnerability."

"Warmth is the best culture to keep between you when you're talking about intimacy."

"Emotional safety is foundational. It's hard to be sexually vulnerable if you don't feel emotionally safe."

Time to Talk About it:

What helps you feel the safest, most loved, and most connected to me—both emotionally and physically?

Are there any conversations about our intimacy that we've been avoiding? If so, what's one small step we could take to talk about them with honesty and grace?

What's one thing I do that makes you feel pursued, appreciated, or desired, and what's one thing I could do more often?

What would it take to take our sex life up one point? How can we make that happen?

Mentioned in this Episode:

• Sign up for our daily One Thing email!

• Our Love Making Survey is a great way to keep conversational loving rather than critical.

• Sex is intended to be a gift for your marriage, if you're having a hard time talking about it with your spouse, try this resource: 62 Questions About Sex.

• Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. You'll love our 14 Keys to Lasting Love. Check it out with your spouse!

• If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !

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Our spouse hears messages every day from the world—criticism, pressure, comparison, and doubt. But what if home became the place where they were reminded of who they are, what they're capable of, and how deeply they're loved?

In this episode, Dr. Kim and Nancy talk about the power of encouragement in marriage and why your words carry more weight than anyone else's. They share personal stories from their own marriage, practical ways to encourage your spouse authentically, and how couples can replace patterns of criticism with a culture of support. Whether your marriage is thriving or you've fallen into a habit of negativity, this conversation will challenge you to become your spouse's greatest encourager.

Quotes from this Episode:

Dr. Kim

1. "I don't care what anyone else thinks. Hearing your encouragement makes all the difference in the world."

2. "When your spouse gets more encouragement from someone else than from you, there's a void in the marriage."

3. "Your encouragement is meant to build your spouse up, not put them in the box you want them to fit in."

4. "The more you become a student of your spouse, the more you'll know how to encourage them in ways that truly matter."

5. "When I ask God to help me see you through His eyes, I'm flooded with good things to tell you."

6. "When you see yourselves as a team, encouragement becomes part of how you do life together."

1. "Your spouse is the most important person in your life. What they say carries more weight than anyone else's words."

2. "Sometimes we simply need our spouse to say, 'You can do this.' Those words can make all the difference."

3. "Living in a fallen world makes negativity come naturally, but that's not how God designed our marriages."

4. "Specific encouragement is powerful because it reminds your spouse of the unique gifts and strengths God has given them."

5. "A look or a tone can discourage just as much as words."

6. "When I pray for you, it changes my heart. It changes the way I see you."

Time to Talk About it:

1. When do you feel the most encouraged by me? What specific words or actions help you feel seen, valued, and believed in?

2. Have criticism or negativity become a habit in any area of our marriage? What's one intentional way we can replace those patterns with encouragement this week?

3. How can I better support what God is doing in your life instead of trying to shape you into who I think you should be?

Mentioned in this Episode:

• Sign up for our daily One Thing email!

• Struggling with your attitude toward your spouse? Find it hard to encourage someone you feel disconnected from? Our Reframing Challenge will help!

• Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. You'll love our 4 Days to Growing Gratitude in Marriage . Check it out with your spouse!

• If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !

• Be the first to hear about all things Awesome Marriage, receive monthly bonus content straight from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy, and take advantage of big discounts by becoming a Marriage Changer!

What does success really look like—and who gets to define it?

In the final episode of this three-part conversation, Dr. Kim sits down with Tom Pfeiffer to talk about the subtle ways we drift from our priorities without even realizing it. Together they unpack why saying "yes" to every good opportunity can cost us what matters most, how small daily habits shape the life we're building, and why true success isn't measured by titles or achievements but by living a life that's aligned with your values.

Whether you're feeling stuck, stretched too thin, or simply wondering if you're chasing the right things, this conversation will challenge you to slow down, evaluate what's most important, and take one intentional step toward the life God is calling you to live.

• Learn how "priority drift" quietly pulls you away from what matters most—and how to stop it.

• Why chasing alignment instead of success leads to greater freedom, purpose, and peace.

• Simple daily habits that create lasting change, both personally and professionally.

• Practical encouragement to stop waiting for the perfect moment and start taking the next right step.

Tom Pfeifer:

1. "Priority drift doesn't happen all at once. It's one extra meeting, one extra commitment, one extra 'yes.'"

2. "Every time you say yes to something, you're saying no to something else."

3. "Success is what other people can see. Alignment is when the life you're living matches the values you say you have."

4. "The best decision I ever made was to stop chasing success and start chasing alignment."

5. "Sports are supposed to be fun. You're not going to war."

6. "So many of the things we worry about are first-world problems."

7. "Don't quit your job tomorrow. Start stacking proof one day at a time."

8. "Your habits become discipline, and discipline will always outlast motivation."

9. "Everyone has the same 24 hours. It's not about having time—it's about the choices you make."

10. "Just do the thing. Take the first step and let tomorrow build on today."

1. "Culture doesn't pull us away from what matters overnight—it happens one small drift at a time."

2. "When we say yes to too many good things, we often end up saying no to the people who matter most."

3. "The hardest part of protecting your priorities is learning to say no."

4. "You don't always realize you're drifting until you look up and wonder how you got so far from what matters."

5. "Don't get impatient. Big life changes are built one step at a time."

6. "Working out changes far more than your body—it changes your confidence and your mindset."

7. "One day stacked on another becomes a habit, and habits shape the life you live."

8. "Ask yourself: Are you drifting? And if you are, where is that drift taking you?"

9. "The best opportunities aren't always the ones that align with your priorities."

10. "You have to define success for yourself instead of letting culture define it for you."

1. Where have you noticed "priority drift" in your own life, and what's one step you can take to realign with what matters most?

2. How do you currently define success? Has that definition changed over the years?

3. What's one habit or daily choice that could help you become more intentional with your time, relationships, or calling?

Have you ever sincerely apologized to your spouse but felt like you were still paying for the mistake weeks or even months later? Or maybe you're the one carrying a hurt that just won't seem to heal, even though you've chosen to forgive.

In this episode, Dr. Kim unpacks the important differences between forgiveness, healing, and trust—and why they don't all happen on the same timeline. He shares practical encouragement for both the spouse who has apologized and the spouse who is still hurting, offering biblical wisdom and realistic next steps for rebuilding trust, extending grace, and moving toward genuine healing together.

Episode Takeaways:

Forgiveness is a standard and it's a choice.

Wounds take time to heal.

Trust is rebuilt through behavior, not just an apology.

There's a difference between a lingering hurt and using a past hurt as leverage.

Don't give up on one another.

Let your actions carry the weight!

Quotes from this episode:

"You can't control your spouse's healing timeline. You can control whether you're showing up with humility and consistency."

"Suppressed pain almost always surfaces later—usually at the worst possible moment and in the worst possible way."

"The question isn't whether your spouse has forgiven you. The question might be whether you're giving them the space and time to heal."

"Real healing requires honesty, not performance."

"They chose honesty over pretending. They chose forgiveness over bitterness. And God honored that."

Time to Talk About it:

1. When you've been hurt by each other, do we tend to expect forgiveness, healing, and trust to happen at the same pace? How might understanding the difference between those three change the way we respond to one another?

2. Is there an apology from the past that still feels unresolved for either of us? What would help us continue moving toward healing without reopening old wounds or keeping score?

3. What's one practical way each of us can help rebuild trust this week—whether that's through consistent actions, honest communication, or extending grace?

Mentioned in this Episode:

• Sign up for our daily One Thing email!

• If trust has been broken in your marriage, and you need a place to start, check out our Rebuilding Trust Challenge.

• Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. You'll love our Learning to Apologize Well reading plan. Check it out with your spouse!

• If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !

• Be the first to hear about all things Awesome Marriage, receive monthly bonus content straight from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy, and take advantage of big discounts by becoming a Marriage Changer!

What if the biggest thing holding you back isn't a lack of opportunity, but fear?

In part two of Dr. Kim's conversation with Tom Pfeiffer, they explore what it takes to step into the life God is calling you to live. Tom shares how walking away from a successful legal career taught him that waiting for certainty often keeps us from taking the very steps that lead to growth.

Together, they discuss the cost of inaction, learning to let go of other people's opinions, changing the trajectory of your family legacy, and why being fully present with your spouse and children is one of the greatest investments you'll ever make.

Whether you're facing a career decision, feeling stuck, or simply wanting to live with greater purpose, this conversation will encourage you to stop waiting for the "perfect time" and start making intentional choices today.

Episode Highlights:

Stop waiting for certainty—action creates clarity.

Don't let other people's opinions dictate your future.

Choose presence with your family over the pursuit of success.

Build a legacy you'll be proud to look back on.

Quotes from this Conversation:

Tom Pfeiffer

• "We always think you need certainty before action. But I think it's the opposite."

• "We never really contemplate the cost of inaction. What did I miss by not doing that?"

• "Far too often, you'll look back when you're 60, 70, or 80 years old and say, 'Man, I wish I did that.'"

• "I honestly stopped caring what people think. It's a daily practice, but it's life-changing."

• "Write down the names of the people whose opinions actually matter to you. I'll bet you're done in 30 seconds."

• "The majority of people who have an opinion about what you're doing are usually just afraid to do it themselves."

• "I was more afraid of staying where I was and not being a present dad than I was of making the change."

• "It's not going to say 'JD' or 'Doctor' on your tombstone. It's going to say father, husband, son. Those are the things that matter."

• "There are moments in life that are the last time you'll ever do something—and most of the time, you don't even know it."

• "Sports are a vehicle for life. You have to be okay with adversity because that's where growth happens."

• "You have to be okay with delayed gratification. You're going to crawl, then walk, then jog, then run."

• "The version of you that you present every day is the driving factor behind the life you build."

Dr. Kim Kimberling

• "There's such a profound satisfaction that comes from being the person who changes your family lineage."

• "Most people don't think about us nearly as much as we think they do."

• "If they're not on your list, don't give their opinion power over your life."

• "Your spouse and your kids will know if you're not being who God created you to be."

• "What's really important is the dash between the dates. What did you do with your time?"

• "You can always find time for your family if you decide they're a priority."

• "Your kids won't remember the career you built. They'll remember that you were there."

• "If you're becoming the person God created you to be, everyone around you benefits."

Time to Talk About it:

Where in your life are you waiting for certainty before taking a step of faith, and what might happen if you took action instead?

Whose opinions have the biggest influence on your decisions, and are those the people whose voices should matter most?

If your spouse or children described what you prioritize with your time, what would they say—and does that align with the legacy you want to leave?

Just when you thought you couldn't love Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy more—this episode takes things to a whole new level. With honesty and heart, they open up about the real journey of their marriage—sharing the intentional choices, tough seasons, and deep faith that carried them through. From early challenges that could have pulled them apart to the daily decisions that drew them closer, their story reflects what's possible when a couple chooses to build on the foundation of Christ. Their marriage is both relatable and inspiring—a powerful reminder that when God is kept first, a marriage doesn't just survive—it thrives.

Episode Highlights:

Marriage takes intentionality.

Awesome marriages don't happen naturally.

No matter where your marriage is at there is hope!

Quotes from this Episode:

I think we had to build true love in our marriage.

We've learned to build bit by bit.

I thought if I loved you enough everything was going to be ok.

Until you realize how much God loves you as a person you aren't truly free to love another person.

Divorce isn't a word in our vocabulary anymore, commitment is!

Just getting married doesn't mean you won't feel alone.

1. What part of Dr. Kim and Nancy's story felt most relatable or surprising to you? Why?
   
   

2. Have you ever assumed love alone would be enough to fix everything? How has your view of love and commitment changed over time?
   
   

3. Have there been moments where one (or both) of you felt alone in your marriage? What helped reconnect you—or what could help now?
   
   

4. Is "divorce" or emotional withdrawal ever subtly present as an option in your mindset or language? What does it look like to choose commitment every day?
   
   

5. How can you better prioritize keeping God first in your marriage this week?
   
   

6. What's one thing you want to be intentional about after listening to this episode—together or individually?

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