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Sat in a café in Canggu this week, a stunning girl walked in and I clocked my own reaction: the instinct to immediately count myself out, put her on a pedestal, and hand over all my power before a word had even been said.

So I'm introducing a concept I'm calling Mascuriosity, taking that masculine sexual energy and modulating it into genuine curiosity about the person in front of you, rather than collapsing into the classic "no chance, mate" response.

In this one I get into:

- The "she's too good for me" conditioning most of us grew up with

- Why suppressing healthy masculine drive isn't the answer, channelling it is

- How curiosity dissolves anxiety (and even physical pain, credit to Ross Edgley)

- Why this has to be drilled, not just understood

- Why beautiful people aren't automatically interesting, and why that matters for your own self-worth

- The Northern working-class "tip it on the ramp" origin story

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A few weeks ago I talked about not deleting people from your past. This week, life handed me a story that proved that point all over again - from an unexpected date in Bali, to a journal entry I almost censored, to a Black Mirror episode that was already playing on my TV before I'd consciously chosen it.

In this episode I get into why we instinctively edit our own memories, what it actually means when you feel the need to sanitise your journal for a future partner who doesn't even exist yet, and why that instinct might say more about your fear of being fully known than any real consideration for someone else.

We also cover: why a gym date is underrated, the Black Mirror episode Eulogy and what it gets exactly right about erasing people, and a practical tool for managing your Google Photos memories without nuking your past entirely.

If your partner's jealous of your history - point them to this episode. Or maybe just point them to the door.

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