When Michael Vassar’s daughter was diagnosed with a rare genetic disorder and later autism, his family’s journey took an unexpected turn. In this candid conversation, Michael shares how “Welcome to Holland,” Emily Perl Kingsley’s well-known poem, became a touchstone for reframing expectations — and finding unexpected beauty on a different path.

We talk about the early shock of diagnosis, the long waits for services, the power of parent-to-parent connection, and the little victories that make the hardest days worth it. Michael also brings insight from his work in autism care technology, offering practical tips for families navigating the post-diagnosis gap.

Whether you’re just beginning this journey or years down the road, this episode is a reminder that while the destination may not be what you first imagined, it can still be deeply meaningful — and you don’t have to walk it alone.

Inspired by Emily Perl Kingsley’s poem “Welcome to Holland.”

Read Emily Perl Kingsley’s full poem, “Welcome to Holland,” here: https://www.emilyperlkingsley.com/welcome-to-holland

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Amanda Cox, leadership development trainer and consultant, shares insights on how leadership in autism centers directly impacts family experiences and client outcomes.

• Leadership in ABA requires constant "chameleonism" – switching between different communication styles and audiences quickly
• Trust-based leadership creates psychological safety through transparency, not avoiding hard conversations
• BCBAs and parents must understand each other's perspectives for effective partnerships
• Biological readiness (eating, hydration, rest) forms the foundation for handling clinic challenges
• Leaders model behavior – if they don't practice self-care, staff won't either
• Normalizing feedback creates cultures where communication improves and burnout decreases
• Young professionals entering the field need both clinical and leadership skills
• Effective leadership means asking for help appropriately and delegating tasks
• Balancing professional boundaries while remaining human is essential for longevity

Connect with Amanda Cox at the Know Better Company to learn more about leadership development for ABA professionals.

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In this brief trailer, host Wendy Manganaro shares what you can expect from Around the Spectrum: grounded guidance, honest conversations, and real stories about raising and supporting children with autism. Whether you're a parent at the start of the journey, a professional who works alongside families, or simply someone who cares, there's a seat for you here.

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