In this illuminating episode, Cynthia Marks and psychotherapist Dr. Lauren Dolinsky zoom in on the unconscious—the vast “unseen” mind that shapes feelings, choices, and relationships. They explore dreams as a nightly bridge from the unconscious to the conscious, and why facing the “swampland” of scary feelings actually frees us. Lauren explains personal vs. collective unconscious, notes why intellect alone can’t heal us, and shares how wisdom is emotional, embodied, and relational. Cynthia brings three striking dreams: a booming “NEVER!” from the dark (don’t look), a designer’s house with misaligned floors and doors (don’t settle), and a final vision of lifting blackness to reveal a warm, triangular light—love as invitation. Together they show how dreamwork realigns the inner “architecture,” syncing heart and mind, and how that inner shift radiates outward. The takeaway is simple and radical: ask your dreams to speak, listen for feeling, and let love lead.

00:00 — What Is the Unconscious?

05:45 — Dreams: Bridge From Night to Day

11:30 — Why We Avoid It (Monsters & “Protection”)

17:15 — Dream 1: “NEVER!” in the Dark

23:00 — Dream 2: The Misaligned House

28:45 — Wisdom vs. Intellect (Feeling Leads)

34:30 — Dream 3: Lifting Blackness, Finding Light

40:16 — Conclusion: Invite Dreams, Let Love Lead

In this energizing conversation, Cynthia meets siblings Denver and Dylan Humphrey, co-founders of the youth nonprofit Fourddo, whose mission is to amplify young voices and build real community. They share how a homeschooled, low-social-media childhood evolved into a joint platform—and then into a hub that connects teens across states with resources, mentors, and each other. The duo explains why they refuse to “be niche”: mental health, civic education, arts, equity, and storytelling all belong in the same room when you’re serving whole human beings. We hear about their Days of Mindfulness campaign, pop-up gatherings that give students a reset through movement, play, and presence—and why simply staying in touch is transformative. Denver and Dylan talk about bridge-building (introductions, DMs, late-night check-ins), making local retreats community-run, and the power of intergenerational listening. Most of all, they model sibling teamwork as a practice of empathy, fluidity, and love. The result is a blueprint for youth leadership that is inclusive, practical, and deeply human.00:00 — What Fourddo Is
04:00 — From Homeschool to Platform

08:00 — Checking In & Staying Connected

12:00 — Campaigns & Days of Mindfulness

16:00 — Safe Spaces, Not Isolation

20:00 — “Not Niche”: Move Freely Across Issues

24:00 — Retreats, Local Partners, & What’s Next

28:01 — Closing: Love, Bridges, and How to Reach Fourddo

In this riveting session, Cynthia Marks and Dr. Loren Weiner unpack masochism as a deep, often invisible style of living driven by unconscious guilt—the felt sense that we “deserve” to suffer or deny ourselves good things. Loren traces the guilt back to Dr. Bernard Bail’s imprint theory: the fetus unconsciously takes on the mother’s unprocessed pain and wrongly concludes, “it’s my fault,” a “first lie” that later fuels self-sabotage, procrastination, and staying in punishing relationships. They show how dreams reveal this pattern—from lost purses and missed deadlines to violent head blows—mapping the original psychic “blast” and the mind’s attempt to wall it off. Cynthia shares personal dreams (like a book titled “Life Is Torture”) that capture resistance to joy and the pull toward old operating manuals. Loren explains how this inner guilt scales up into culture—why groups, institutions, even nations repeatedly choose policies that make everyone suffer. The antidote isn’t moralizing but honest dreamwork, daily self-questioning, and claiming the birthright to love and pleasure. Start inside, they insist; shift the inner operating system and the outer systems begin to change.

• 00:00 — What Is Masochism?

• 07:20 — The First Lie

• 14:40 — Head-Trauma Dreams

• 22:00 — Working the Pattern

• 29:20 — “Life Is Torture”

• 36:40 — Self to Society

• 44:00 — Allowing Love & Pleasure

• 50:49 — Closing Invitation