When Marriage Gets Hard: What God Taught Me

Hey Believers, in the beginning, I thought that if I didn’t cheat or lie, marriage would be easy. I was wrong. After nearly seven years of marriage, I’ve learned that a godly union requires much more than just avoiding the big mistakes—it requires spiritual endurance.

In this episode, I’m getting raw and transparent about the spiritual warfare that recently hit my home. I’m sharing how the enemy attacked my mind with doubt and depression, and how I had to stop moving so fast to finally hear what God was teaching me.

What we’re diving into:

• The Reality of Warfare: Identifying the mental attacks that try to steal your peace and your spark.
• The Stress of Life: How the daily grind of kids, work, and chores can drain a marriage if you aren't intentional.
• The Hosea Mandate: Learning from the biblical call to love and buy back our spouses, just as Christ loves us.
• Building Endurance: Why marriage is a marathon and how to sow love even when you’re exhausted.

Marriage isn’t a game; it’s a commitment to fight for one another every single day. If you’re in a hard season, don't walk away—get in the Word, seek the Holy Spirit, and build the endurance to see it through.

"Love covers a multitude of sins."

Hey Believers, In this episode of the allenandeve podcast, we’re getting real about a recent moment where things got tense between us. Even after moments of deep repentance and confession, pride has a way of creeping back in and reopening old wounds.

We dive into:

• The "Microwave" Fix: Why we often expect instant healing in marriage when growth actually requires time and patience.
• The Battle of the Flesh: Using Romans 7 to understand why we often do the very things we don’t want to do, especially during an argument.
• Returning to Grace: How to apply the "patient and kind" love of 1 Corinthians 13 when your feelings are hurt.

Marriage isn't a game—it's a journey of constantly choosing humility over being "right". Whether you're in a season of peace or currently navigating a rough patch, we hope our transparency helps you find the path back to grace.

Timestamps

• 0:00 – When "I'm sorry" isn't enough
• 1:45 – The difference between patience and a "quick fix"
• 2:30 – Romans 7: The struggle of doing what we hate
• 4:15 – 1 Corinthians 13: Choosing love over pride
• 5:00 – A prayer for couples in conflict

Remember, it's Allan & Eve here to help you believe that marriage is not a game!!!

In this episode, we’re tackling the "scary" side of intimacy: bringing our darkest thoughts into the light. We often keep secrets—struggles with lust, wandering eyes, or internal battles—under the guise of "protecting" our spouse's feelings. But the truth is, lust thrives in the dark. It gains its power from the silence.

We break down why "being known" is more important than "being comfortable" and how sharing your internal struggles actually takes the power away from temptation. Drawing from Ephesians 5 and James 5, we discuss how to turn your spouse from a judge into a prayer partner.

What we cover:

• Why the "smooth surface" of a secret-filled marriage is a foundation of sand.
• The "How" of confession: Protecting your bond vs. venting to hurt.
• Moving from shame to healing through the power of the light.
• How to guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23) by inviting your spouse to stand watch with you.

If you’re tired of the "dark corners" of your mind and ready for a marriage that is truly healed, not just "fine," this episode is for you.