You know your partner’s betrayal wasn’t your fault.

You understand the logic.

But still, deep down, you’re stuck.

Still needing reassurance. Still bracing for the next emotional shift. Still terrified of being too much, or not enough.

Why?

Because some of what you’re feeling didn’t start with them.

In this episode, Luke explores how emotional survival strategies from childhood shape the way we respond to betrayal, uncertainty, and intimacy as adults. If you’ve been chasing reassurance, battling emotional spirals, or waiting for your partner to give you the peace you can’t seem to find, this episode is for you.

It’s not about blame.

It’s about awareness.

And reclaiming the power you forgot you had.

✔️ Why betrayal activates old survival wiring, not just current fear

✔️ The truth about reassurance, and why it never lasts

✔️ How emotional outsourcing creates cycles of panic and distance

✔️ The difference between fear of what might happen… and the belief you wouldn’t survive it

✔️ How to build internal trust using the self-coaching model and ladder thoughts

✔️ Why your partner can’t fix wounds they didn’t create, and why you can

💬 Reflection Prompt:

Where in your healing are you still waiting to be saved?

And what might shift if you stopped outsourcing that safety, and started practising it with yourself?

Connect with Luke:

• Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
• Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
• Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com

Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

When you suspect infidelity but don’t have the proof, it can feel like you’re living in emotional limbo, caught between your gut and your guilt. In this episode, we unpack the messy, painful, and very human experience of wondering whether something’s going on behind your back.

You’ll learn how to stop spiralling and start grounding, why your feelings are valid even without confirmation, and how to begin reclaiming trust in yourself, no matter what happens next.

If you’re frozen in fear or stuck in overanalysis, this is your lifeline.

• You don’t need “proof” to honour your pain, suspicion itself creates emotional distress worth tending to.
• Overanalysis feels like control, but often creates more confusion and disconnect from your truth.
• Grounding and anchoring practices help shift you from obsession to self-alignment.
• The path forward begins by asking: “What do I need?” instead of “What are they hiding?”
• Clarity doesn’t always come from answers, it comes from reconnecting with your values, boundaries, and self-trust.

What would it look like to honour yourself in this moment, without needing all the answers? Share your reflections with us or journal about the question:

👉 “What helps me feel more like myself, even in the middle of this?”

Connect with Luke:

• Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
• Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
• Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com

Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

When betrayal shatters your world, knowing where to start can feel overwhelming.

In this episode, Luke breaks down a simple yet powerful framework to help you regain clarity, direction, and strength, The ABCs of Infidelity Recovery: Acceptance, Boundaries, Compassion.

These three pillars aren’t just concepts. They’re tools.

Tools to help you stay grounded when your emotions spiral.

Tools to help you protect yourself, reconnect with your truth, and create healing on your own terms.

Whether you're rebuilding your relationship or choosing a new path, this episode offers the emotional clarity you’ve been craving.

✔️ What real acceptance looks like, and why it’s not the same as approval or resignation

✔️ How to set boundaries that come from self-respect, not fear

✔️ Why self-compassion is foundational to lasting emotional recovery

✔️ How these three principles work together to create momentum and healing

✔️ A practical way to return to clarity when you feel stuck or overwhelmed

💬 Reflection Question:

Which of the ABCs do you find hardest to practice right now, and what’s one small way you can lean into it today?

Connect with Luke:

• Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
• Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
• Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com

Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity