Do money conversations in your marriage feel more like battlegrounds than building blocks?
You're not alone—and today’s guests are here to help.

In this episode of A Purpose Driven Marriage Podcast, we’re joined by Dan and Kay Ockey, financial coaches and founders of Centsei Financial, who open up about their journey from debt, secrecy, and daily arguments… to building a thriving financial coaching practice—and a stronger marriage—together.

You’ll learn:

• Why most financial fights are not really about money

• The weekly habit that can radically improve your relationship and your bank account

• How to rebuild trust after financial mistakes or hidden spending

• What shared financial responsibility actually looks like in a healthy Christian marriage

• How to start money conversations with your spouse—even if it feels awkward or tense

Dan and Kay don’t just share theory—they walk you through the exact system they used (and now teach others) to reduce stress, eliminate confusion, and create financial unity in marriage.

Want to stop fighting about money and start building your future—together?
Dan and Kay are offering our listeners a FREE budgeting class that breaks down the same principles and tools they’ve used to help over 1,100 households find financial clarity and peace.

📲 Sign up for the free class here:
👉 https://www.centseifinance.com/duane-and-nadine-a-purpose-driven-marriage/

Whether you’re just starting out or trying to recover from past money wounds, this class will give you the practical steps to move forward with confidence and unity.

If you've ever found yourself overwhelmed by the countless invisible tasks of running a home and family, you're not alone. This week on A Purpose Driven Marriage, we’re joined by author and relationship expert Dr. Morgan Cutlip for an eye-opening conversation about the mental load—what it is, why it disproportionately affects women, and how it silently strains marriages.

Dr. Morgan unpacks the emotional toll of carrying the mental load and offers compassionate, research-based tools for couples who want to create a better balance at home. From understanding why women often absorb more of the household responsibilities, to practical ways to bring your spouse into the conversation without blame, this episode is filled with wisdom, encouragement, and real solutions.

We also dive into her new book, A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex, where Dr. Morgan helps couples tackle mental load for more connection, less resentment, and yes—even better sex. Whether you’re a wife who feels unseen or a husband who wants to better understand and support your spouse, this episode will deepen your empathy and strengthen your relationship.

🟡 In This Episode, We Cover:

• What the mental load really is—and how to recognize it

• Why women tend to carry the bulk of it (even when both partners work)

• How the mental load impacts emotional and sexual intimacy

• The parent-child dynamic that drains desire and closeness

• A powerful script for starting the “mental load” conversation without conflict

• Why “oneness” means tackling this challenge together

• Dr. Morgan’s heart behind writing A Better Share

Dr. Morgan Cutlip is an author, relationship expert, and cofounder of MyLoveThinks.com. Known for her down-to-earth and research-backed approach, she empowers couples to navigate the hardest parts of relationships with clarity and compassion. Dr. Morgan holds a master’s in Human Development and Family Science and a doctorate in Counseling Psychology. She’s the author of Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself and her latest book, A Better Share, releases nationwide April 8, 2025.

Follow her on Instagram at @drmorgancutlip and learn more at www.drmorgancutlip.com.

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Know someone who’s carrying more than their share of the mental load? Send them this episode! Let’s help more couples understand the invisible weight—and how to lighten it together.

Is your marriage built to last—or to be left when it no longer meets your expectations?
This week on A Purpose Driven Marriage, we’re unpacking a foundational question:
👉 Are you living out your marriage as a contract… or a covenant?

In a culture that glorifies self-fulfillment and exits at the first sign of discomfort, we’re diving into the difference between the world’s view of marriage and God’s design. Through candid conversation, biblical truth, coaching insights, and real-life reflection, Duane and Nadine walk you through:

• What it means to have a contractual mindset vs. a covenantal mindset

• How contract-thinking leads to insecurity, conditional love, and emotional distance

• What the Bible teaches about covenant love (Genesis 2:24, Ephesians 5, Malachi 2:14)

• Why covenant love is about giving, not receiving

• How even secular studies—including those from Dr. John Gottman—support the benefits of covenant-style commitment

• How your view of marriage shapes your communication, intimacy, and long-term resilience

• Why covenant marriages don’t just bless the couple—they shape generations

• Contract marriages say: “If you do this, I’ll do that.”
  Covenant marriages say: “Even if you don’t, I’m still here.”

• God's model for marriage is sacrificial, not transactional.

• The covenant mindset provides security, purpose, and spiritual alignment.

• You can shift from self-protection to selfless love—and your marriage will thrive for it.

• 0:00 – Intro: Marriage by God’s Design

• 2:45 – Culture’s Contractual View of Marriage

• 6:15 – “I’ll stay as long as I’m happy” – The Danger of Conditions

• 9:00 – How a contract mindset creates emotional insecurity

• 12:40 – What is a covenant marriage, really?

• 14:00 – God’s blueprint: Ephesians 5 & sacrificial love

• 17:30 – When one spouse is struggling—what covenant commitment looks like

• 20:50 – Even if you’re not a Christian, covenant principles still apply

• 21:45 – Research: Commitment = Relationship Success (Gottman, UVA, JFP)

• 24:00 – “Interested” vs. “Committed” mindsets

• 30:00 – Choosing love rooted in God, not performance

• 32:00 – A marriage that builds legacy for generations

• 34:00 – Listener challenge + closing encouragement

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