Have you ever tackled a decluttering project in your home? What motivated this decision? How did it feel once you got the extra stuff out of your life?

Decluttering our inner lives is just as important. But it can feel even more vulnerable than letting go of physical things. Learning to let go of old stories and patterns that no longer serve us is brave and stretching. And it is essential for an intentional, values-aligned, soul-honouring life.

For fun, I use a blog post by Jennifer Burger to walk you through some of the powerful benefits of decluttering both externally and internally.

Resources

6 Powerful Benefits of Decluttering Your Home + Life by Jennifer Burger: https://www.simplyfiercely.com/benefits-of-decluttering/

Rewilding in Midlife: Say Yes To Becoming Your True Self (get the free training): https://www.alifeinprogress.ca/rewilding/

So many midlife women approach their healing and growth work from the root belief that they are not good enough, they are bad, wrong, or broken, or that they need to find a "fix" outside of themselves. And then they will feel kinder to themselves, more at peace, or everything in life will fall into place.

All this does is reinforce your old self-protective patterns and gives you more of the same. More of what is NOT working for you.

If you want to create loving, positive, healthy, sustainable change in your life, in your relationships, in your relationship with yourself, then you need to change a fundamental belief.

You don't need fixing. You are already whole.

You don't need to do better and be better. You need to BE your True Self and learn how to BE on your own side.

In this episode I walk you through a process of growth and becoming that I call Old Self - New Self - True Self.

Women arrive at my work at the New Self phase. I take them through this vulnerable, messy stage of becoming and help them meet and befriend their True Self. This is where they learn to lead from their Wise, Healthy, Brilliant Self more and more of the time.

The New Self phase is hard work. It's important to know that and normalize it. You will need to shed, strip away, question, decondition... and this can feel unmooring and destabilizing at first.

But - this is also where freedom and joy really begin to grow in your life.

You learn to receive what you truly want and need. You learn to be on your own side and really trust yourself. You learn to pause between impulse and response. You learn how to be with discomfort and show up through it vs quitting or hiding under the covers. And you put down deep, hardy roots of self-awareness and self-compassion.

If there is a part of you that recognizes a desire to say YES to more freedom and joy and self-kindness, then after listening to this episode, I invite you to listen to a free training about Rewilding in Midlife.

Get the free training: https://www.alifeinprogress.ca/rewilding/

Or if you are ready to work with me, reach out and we can book a free 25 minute call: https://www.alifeinprogress.ca/schedule-a-free-chat/

If you're like most of the women I work with, you are already fairly self-aware. You've already done quite a bit of internal growth work or inquiry. You may have done a lot of therapy, you've read books, you've gotten degrees. You know how to work hard. You know how to do hard things. You know how to show up for people.

But you don't show up for yourself.

You devalue your own wants and needs and you don't really know what to do about this problem.

You have inner wisdom calling you forward, towards something positive for your life. But you don't know how to get across that bridge. How to take that first step, or how to pick yourself right back up when you fall down. And you struggle with staying focused on what you want and need when other people want your attention, or they are unhappy with you, or the world is noisy.

You get pulled off track or distracted very easily.

So this episode is about why it is so important that you stop deprioritizing your own wants and needs. Why you need to learn how to not just have good intentions, but how to follow through when life is noisy or messy.

I share 7 common reasons why you get so easily distracted from your own wants and needs. My guess is that you'll recognize yourself in more than one.

And I mention 4 skills that you need to build in order to show up consistently to your own priorities, goals, or dreams.

Resources

Episode 11, How and Why to Shore up Leaky Boundaries: https://www.alifeinprogress.ca/shore-up-leaky-boundaries/

Learn how we can work together: https://www.alifeinprogress.ca/work-with-me/