In this episode of On the Couch with Clare, I’m joined by Bella Duncan — speaker, advocate, and the powerful voice behind the platform A Kid With Two Homes. Bella shares her lived experience growing up in a separated family and gives an honest, heartfelt insight into what life is really like for a child caught between two homes.

While many experts offer professional advice on co-parenting, Bella speaks from the perspective that matters most - the child’s. Her story and practical wisdom have resonated with thousands of parents navigating divorce and separation. Whether you’re co-parenting now, have family or friends going through it, or simply want to understand how to support children through separation, this conversation is for you.

In this episode:

• Bella’s story of growing up in a separated family from age three
• The lasting impact of conflict between homes
• Why the little moments like pick-ups and drop-offs matter so much to kids
• The common co-parenting mistakes well-meaning parents make
• How parents can shield their kids from unnecessary stress, confusion and responsibility
• Practical advice for parents from handovers to new partners, to managing tricky family dynamics
• Why giving children a “voice” is important, but handing over “choice” can be an unfair burden
• The realities of managing divorced parents into adulthood and how Bella eventually took back control of her own life.

Connect with Bella:

• A Kid with Two Homes website
• Instagram

Connect with Clare:

• Instagram
• YouTube
• Facebook
• LinkedIn
• Website

More about On the Couch with Clare:

Come take a seat On the Couch with Clare, your weekly dose of common sense and raw conversations, where psychology meets everyday life. It’s a show aimed to bring scientific insights, engaging conversations and never shies away from the tough topics across health, relationships, politics, parenting and everyday life.

You’ll hear from guests from diverse backgrounds, including media personalities, authors, and health professionals. Expect a blend of professional wisdom, personal anecdotes and political correctness - free zone.

Clare’s straightforward and honest approach delivers shame-free practical solutions, new perspectives, and actionable advice. Keeping it real, she addresses everything from fitness struggles, ADHD and digital addictions to mental health challenges and the dating scene. So, whether you’re sipping coffee or enjoying your favourite wine, prepare for your weekly meet-up with a friend who’s here to show you that the only battle you’re truly facing is with yourself—and it’s a battle you can win.

Clare Rowe is a dynamic Sydney-based psychologist with a Masters in Educational & Developmental Psychology. Heading up a leading Child & Adolescent Psychology clinic, Clare’s career spans from the therapy room to the courtroom and the media spotlight, offering practical solutions for parents regaining confidence, individuals navigating life...