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Today I'm joined by LCSW Amanda Texeira who is a mom of three boys and a holistic, trauma-informed therapist. to unpack one of the most misunderstood and overused phrases in modern motherhood: nervous system regulation.

Somewhere along the way, “regulated” became synonymous with “calm.”
If you’re not calm all the time? You must be dysregulated!

Amanda debunks this myth.

We talk about the pendulum swing in motherhood content: from hyper-curated, perfectly curated moments to victim-mindset misery. We discuss how algorithm-driven black-and-white parenting advice like never saying the word “no” can actually make moms more dysregulated, ironically.

We explore:

• Why calm ≠ regulated
• The difference between congruent responses and suppression
• How to model emotional intelligence
• Why yelling “NO!” when your child runs toward traffic is actually regulated
• Why Amanda doesn't like parenting scripts
• The performative side of “gentle parenting”
• How algorithm-fed content can manufacture misery
• When "mental load" rhetoric is helpful vs. harmful

We close by talking about congruency, repair cycles, environmental regulation myths, and why your reaction often makes sense even when Instagram denies it.

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