I have no clue whether Erik and I will have a third baby. We're both leaving the door open for that possibility. What we do know though is we're waiting minimum 3-4 years between baby 3 and our second baby. Probably leaning closer to 4 years.

With two kids just over two years apart, I reflect on what the postpartum period was actually like for me, especially as a mom who parents intentionally, prefers not to take shortcuts or use literal or metaphorical pacifiers, and mothers in alignment with biological norms. Hint: I had to take shortcuts. I needed to give myself a lot of grace.

I examine factors such as my personal capacity, my kids' and my own temperaments, resources, age, energy, and milestones I would prefer for my second baby to reach before we even begin to think about trying for a third IF we eventually decide to have a third.

In this episode, I talk about:

• What postpartum really looked like with two kids 26 months apart
• My theory for why “two under two” works for some families and not for others
• The physical and emotional toll of back-to-back pregnancies and extended breastfeeding
• What bigger age gaps actually mean for sibling bonds
• Hunter-gatherer family spacing and modern pressures around fertility
• Egg quality vs. egg quantity (and why I’m not afraid of pregnancy in my late 30s)

If you’re a mom who feels conflicted about wanting to wait or pressured to hurry up, this conversation is for you.

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