Joel, a counselor in NYC, grew up in a Haitian and Ivorian household where Creole was the language at home, Joel’s job is centered on the "addictive" feeling of genuinely helping people. We get into why the current healthcare system is so broken, especially how "zip code privilege" determines who gets quality therapy and why his MBA showed him that corporate cost-cutting usually happens at the expense of real healing. Joel explains the frustration of being a specialist in EMDR and seeing healthcare managers pass patients off to less experienced therapists just to save a buck, proving that those who need help the most are often the ones the system leaves behind.

We also dive into some heavy but necessary topics like ecological inheritance, how wealth and trauma are passed down through generations, and why it’s so important to own your narrative even when the beginning of your story was shaped by things like trauma or abandonment. Joel shares some great advice on "re-parenting," breaking the cycle of conditional love, and why Millennials are actually the most adaptive generation for shifting these old cultural schemas. We wrap things up by talking about anger. Joel sees it as a healthy sign that you’re alive, whether you’re a Boomer, a Millennial, or Gen Z. It’s a raw look at how to stop letting your emotions or your culture become a prison and how to start expressing what you actually need from the people around you.