Mike calls it the downshift.

Most men don't have one.

They leave work — or close the laptop — and walk straight through the door still wired. Still in battle mode. Sword drawn. Armor on. Nervous system running at a ten.

And their family gets the worst of them.

Not because they don't love them. Because nobody taught them how to make the transition.

Mike is the founder of Men of Movement Retreats and one of the speakers at the Patriarch Summit this September. We sat down on Instagram Live to talk about the one thing costing men their marriages, their presence, and their connection with their kids — and what to actually do about it.

We get into the downshift — why most men are tired but wired when they walk through the door and what a real transition ritual looks like. The king without his armor — leading from the heart at home versus leading from the front at work. Drala — the energetics of your environment and how the state of your space is communicating something to your family before you say a word. Lead from the middle — Mike's philosophy on the dynamic nature of real leadership. And wrestling with your son — why physical play is one of the most important regulation tools a father has.

Plus a live question from a dad struggling to get his four year old down without a battle every night. We go there.

This is what the Patriarch Summit is built for. Men who are ready to stop bringing the battlefield home.

Patriarch Summit — September 11-13, 2026. Virtual. Live. 13 speakers.

GA $17. VIP $47 — recordings for life, speaker giveaways, live Q&A with every speaker including Mike.

Link in bio. Doors are open.

// Raise them up in the way

x Rob