这一集，我想从四个方面和你分享一下我对疗愈和成长的思考，以及我上周读到的美国的留佩萱博士在Substack上分享的一篇深刻的文章带给我的启发。

1. 疗愈和治愈，是完全不同的两件事
治愈是消除症状、疾病到此结束；疗愈是意识到过去的经历正在影响今天的自己，并开始有意识地理解自己、接纳自己。

2. 真正的疗愈，不是消灭痛苦，而是扩展内心的容器
疗愈不是把负面情绪赶走，而是让内在有越来越大的空间，能够容纳悲伤、愤怒、恐惧，也容纳喜悦、爱和希望。

3. 疗愈不是变成完美的人，而是让成人的自己带领自己回归完整
那些愤怒、讨好、自责的部分，不是来摧毁我们的。它们曾在我们幼小脆弱时努力保护过我们。疗愈，是带着慈悲去看到它们，陪伴它们。

4. 疗愈，是重新把自己放回关系里，一次次找到回家的路
伤痛在关系中发生，疗愈也需要回到关系里。每一次迷失时，呼吸、正念、身体工作……都是带我们重新回家的工具。

愿你，不再抱怨自己，修理自己，而是开始陪伴自己、接纳自己 。

愿我们，在每一次迷失中，都能重新找到回家的路。

🌿🔗播客中提到的Substack上美国留佩萱博士的文章链接：

https://open.substack.com/pub/healinglettersfromdrliu/p/letter-14?r=da37f&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email

我也非常推荐你去订阅和阅读她在Substack上的电子报《Healing Letters from Dr. Liu》

In recent years, “healing” has become an increasingly popular topic, but also one that is often misunderstood. Many people think healing means “getting rid of pain” or “becoming a perfect person.” But in reality, many of the patterns that cause us pain were once our inner parts’ best attempts to protect us.

In this episode, I share four important reflections:

1. Healing and curing are two completely different things
   Curing is about eliminating symptoms and ending illness. Healing is about becoming aware that our past experiences are still shaping who we are today, and learning to consciously understand and accept ourselves.
2. Real healing is not about eliminating pain, but about expanding our inner container
   Healing is not about pushing away difficult emotions. It is about creating more inner space to hold sadness, anger, fear, and also joy, love, and hope.
3. Healing is not becoming a perfect person, but allowing the adult self to guide us back toward wholeness
   The parts of us that feel angry, self-critical, people-pleasing, or fearful are not here to destroy us. They once worked very hard to protect us when we were small and vulnerable. Healing means seeing these parts with compassion and learning to accompany them gently.
4. Healing is about placing ourselves back into relationship, and finding our way home again and again
   If many wounds were created in relationships, then healing must also happen through relationships. Every time we feel lost, tools like breathwork, mindfulness, and body-based practices can help guide us back home to ourselves.

May you stop blaming yourself and trying to “fix” yourself, and instead begin to accompany yourself with more tenderness.

May we all, in every moment of losing ourselves, slowly find our way home again.

🌿🔗 Article by Dr. Liu on Substack mentioned in this podcast:
https://open.substack.com/pub/healinglettersfromdrliu/p/letter-14?r=da37f&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email

I also highly recommend subscribing to and reading her Substack newsletter: Healing Letters from Dr. Liu.