What happens when the woman you love stops wanting sex?

For many men, a fading sex drive feels like rejection, loneliness, or even a sign that the relationship is dying. You may wonder:

Am I still attractive? Does she still want me? Did I do something wrong?

After more than 20 years of coaching men and couples, I've found the answer is usually more nuanced.

Women often don't stop wanting sex. They stop wanting the sex they've been having.

As women move through midlife, many become less willing to settle for intimacy that feels rushed, disconnected, predictable, or focused primarily on their partner's experience. Hormones and health can certainly play a role, but there's another piece that often gets overlooked: desire is relational.

In this episode, I explore a different way of understanding desire—one where it isn't something one partner has and the other needs to get back. Desire is something two people create together.

I share six ways I've helped couples co-create more connection, pleasure, and passion, including becoming a student of your partner, slowing down, moving beyond one-dimensional sex, creating experiments instead of expectations, and learning not to take differences in desire personally.

If your sex life has faded, I hope this episode gives you something you may not have had in a while: hope that the best intimacy of your relationship can still be ahead of you.

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