The reality is you already know what you're doing.

You can see the pattern clearly. You've journaled about it, talked it through with your therapist and your best friend, and maybe even built a whole career helping other people with it. And yet, you're still stuck in it.

Self-sabotage doesn't look the same for everyone, and that's part of why it's so easy to miss in yourself.

For some people, it's procrastination, and for others, it's perfectionism, people-pleasing, saying yes when every cell in your body is screaming no.

Some people overfunction until they burn out, and some people get so close to the thing they say they want and then find a reason to back away.

If it’s repeated in your life, it’s not random, it’s rooted. It's a subconscious mind that learned, at some point, that it wasn't safe to have the thing you're reaching for now.

This week, I’m revisiting a conversation with Safiya about self-sabotage. We talk about where these patterns come from, why they can feel so hard to shift, and what it looks like to get to the root instead of just managing the surface-level symptoms.

If you’ve ever had that uncomfortable thought, “I know exactly what I need to do, and I still can’t make myself do it,” this episode will resonate

What You'll Learn:

• Why self-sabotage is almost always self-protection, and what your nervous system is actually trying to do when it gets in your way.
• Why the experiences you had long before you could articulate them are still making decisions for you now.
• What hypnosis actually does to help you access and shift those deeper layers, not just the behavior you can see.
• Why sustainable change has never been about pushing harder.

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The information shared on this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, or cure any condition, nor does it constitute a therapeutic relationship. All views expressed are my own. You should always consult with your own medical, mental health, legal, and financial professionals before making any decisions.