Rev Syd introduces longtime friend blake nemec—community health worker, somatic coach, writer, artist, and Buddhist/mindfulness practitioner—for a conversation about loneliness as a reminder of who we are and what follows from that. Anchored by a passage from Ethan Tapper’s 2024 book How to Love a Forest, the conversation explores loneliness as an elusive, non-fixed experience connected to spaciousness, pause, and observation. blake links loneliness to having basic needs met, to accessing sensations beneath our cognitive knowing, and moving through nervous-system states. They discuss trust as embodied knowing, family conflict, anxiety, shame, and loneliness as a conduit to wisdom and clearer “yeses” and “nos,”

• Defining Loneliness as Space
• Loneliness, Fatigue and Rest
• Separation and Reconnection
• Embodied Trust
• Spaciousness and Time

A context note from blake: Parts of the discussion (around time code 21:00) are about “spaciousness.” Emotional states can be understood within a Polyvagal Theory. This theory understands emotional responses connected to the body’s largest nerve, the Vagus nerve. Different emotional responses to stimuli, including trauma, are commonly known as “fight or flight” (Sympathetic) or “freeze” (Dorsal Vagal). This theory includes Ventral Vagal responses, which relates to connection, safety, or being able to orient to the environment. The discussion asked, ‘could understanding the state of loneliness (without reacting to it or fighting against it) be experienced within a Ventral Vagal state as the body is safe enough to acknowledge it?

About blake:

blake nemec (he/they) is a somatic coach with over two decades in harm reduction, mutual aid and street medic community work. As a transgender and queer practitioner negotiating immunodysregulation and ADHD, his practices seek out hidden dignities, emergent safeties, and elements of belonging within an ongoing apocalypse. And, as the world is on fire, he is an accomplice to outrage, upset, and civil disobedience for all unprotected bodies. Writing, meditation, and wild-crafting herbalism have held him through trauma recovery; in turn, he offers guided meditation, generative writing exercises, and small-batch medicinal tinctures to clients.

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