It sometimes feels like being liked and being respected should be (or are) the same thing.

Spoiler Alert: They're not the same, and confusing/conflating the two is one of the more common ways that women stall their careers.

In this episode, I go into detail on the difference between being liked and being respected. I walk through what happens in each of the four combinations of being liked/respected (listen for the combo that is a career-ender) and I get into research on how the liked/respected combo looks different for women than it does for men (doesn’t everything?).

Lastly, I provide some advice on how to build both likability AND respect while still being genuine in your interactions.

Sources cited in this episode:

Fiske, S.T., Cuddy, A.J.C. & Glick, P. (2007). Universal dimensions of social cognition: Warmth and competence. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 11(2), 77–83.

Cuddy, A.J.C. (2015). Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges. Little, Brown Spark.

Flynn, F.J., Anderson, C., & Brion, S. (unpublished manuscript). The Heidi/Howard Roizen study, based on a Harvard Business School case. Widely cited via Sandberg, S. (2013), Lean In. Knopf.

Heilman, M.E. (2001). Description and prescription: How gender stereotypes prevent women's ascent up the organizational ladder. Journal of Social Issues, 57(4), 657–674.

Heilman, M.E., & Okimoto, T.G. (2007). Why are women penalized for success at male tasks? The implied communality deficit. Journal of Applied Psychology, 92(1), 81–92.

Zenger, J., & Folkman, J. (2013, April 4). New research shows success doesn't make women less likable. Harvard Business Review.

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