In this new episode of the Healing and Dealing podcast, Elizabeth Goncal joins me to share her personal journey of self-discovery and healing. Her self-discovery started after college, but the root of the issue goes back to childhood, and they realize they need to heal through it. She delves into the internalized societal expectations and their impact on self-perception. She touches on her tendency to seek external validation and people-pleasing behaviors and her realization of abandoning her true self and the impact it had on her life. She recognizes the need to love and be with herself, overcoming the anxiety associated with being alone, and learning to provide self-love and validation.

Overall, this episode emphasizes the importance of self-love, authenticity, and breaking free from patterns of seeking external validation to live a more fulfilling and genuine life.

Key takeaways:

• Discovery of Coaching: After four months, Elizabeth stumbled upon a coach, leading her to realize that her struggles dated back to childhood, prompting her to embark on a healing journey.

• Abandoning the True Self: Elizabeth reflects on a moment when she looked at a childhood photo and cried, realizing how much she had abandoned her true self in relationships, seeking external validation.

• Recognizing the pattern of needing external validation not only in relationships but also in other aspects of life, including her business and the importance of noticing and addressing these patterns.

• The impact of societal pressures, especially from social media, where individuals feel compelled to conform to certain standards, affecting self-perception and behaviors.

• Elizabeth advocates for being gentle with oneself and cultivating self-compassion, highlighting the significance of changing self-talk and treating oneself with kindness.

• The challenges of maintaining authenticity in a society that often promotes conformity and external validation, urging individuals to embrace their true selves.

• Elizabeth emphasizes that patterns in relationships often overlap with patterns in other areas of life, such as work and business, underscoring the interconnectedness of personal development.

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