In today’s episode, Steph takes on one of the most damaging and common words in our emotional vocabulary: “should.”
You’ll learn why this single word activates your amygdala, spikes cortisol, lowers dopamine, increases pressure, and sends your body into “mini-failure mode”—even when nothing is actually wrong. Backed by the 2024 APA Stress Report, the Gallup Emotions Report, Pew Research, and neuroscience insights, Steph explains why “shoulding on yourself” leads to avoidance, guilt loops, procrastination, and burnout.
Then, Steph walks you through her powerful SHIFT Framework:
S – Spot it


H – Hear what’s under it


I – Identify who it belongs to


F – Flip the language


T – Tiny action


You’ll hear relatable examples—like the ukulele guilt, fitness spirals, cleaning overwhelm, and social comparison traps—and learn how to turn “I should” into “I am choosing to,” “I want to,” or “It matters to me.”
You’ll also get simple micro-actions that help your brain shift out of guilt mode and into yay mode fast.
If you’re tired of feeling behind, pressured, or “not enough,” this episode will help you reclaim your peace, rewire your self-talk, and create days that feel intentional, doable, and empowering.
This episode is for anyone who wants less guilt… more grace… and peace on demand.