Why do you always put everyone else's needs before your own… and then end up resenting them for it?

In this episode, I answer a listener's question and explore why so many of us become people-pleasers, where it begins, and how it's often rooted in childhood conditioning rather than genuine kindness.

I explain the difference between being kind and seeking approval, why resentment is usually a sign of an unmet need, and how setting healthy boundaries isn't selfish, it's an act of self-respect.

If you've ever struggled to say no, feared disappointing others, or felt responsible for everyone else's happiness, this episode will help you understand why and what to do about it.

Takeaways

👉People-pleasing is often self-protection, not kindness.

👉Resentment is a sign of an unmet need.

👉Boundaries protect relationships and self-respect.

👉Awareness is the first step to lasting change.

👉Small boundaries build lasting confidence.

👉You teach people how to treat you.

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