This episode was inspired by and Instagram story I shared about skipping a dinner party I really wanted to go to and how I KNEW before the photos came out, that I’d made the right call.

So many of you reached out wanting more about this topic that I had to record an episode as fast as I could.

We're talking about FOMO: what it actually is, why it gets so much heavier and more layered once you become a parent, and the three questions I ask myself — and my clients — before deciding if something's a hell yeah or a "not right now."

In this episode, we cover:

• (00:00) Intro
• (04:10) What we actually mean when we say "FOMO"
• (06:41) FOMO as a career coach: the career you might've had before kids
• (09:10) Why FOMO and time are inextricably connected
• (10:10) FOMO before kids vs. FOMO after kids
• (15:20) Your time away from kids "quota" — actual, and the psychological one you invent
• (16:54) FOMO and finances: what you're really risking
• (17:34) "If you say yes to this, what are you saying no to?"
• (19:42) What actually triggers FOMO
• (22:09) How to work with FOMO: creating a rhythm
• (31:21) Checking your ego vs. your soul
• (32:37) Commit and don't look back — why regret isn't allowed here
• (34:53) How to prevent it: choosing wisely
• (37:56) The 3 questions: factors, focus, and options

KEY TAKEAWAY

Before you say yes or no to anything, ask: what are the factors surrounding this? What am I focusing on right now? And what are my options beyond just "go or don't go"? Then commit, and don't look back — you're allowed to learn from a decision, you're never required to regret it.

About Andrea Barr, host of All Figured Out:

Andrea is a certified career and life coach for parents. Through her coaching, she supports parents in finding better work-life rhythms so they can continue to grow personally and professionally without sacrificing family time.

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