Have you ever looked in the mirror and wondered, "Who am I anymore?"

Not because you've forgotten your name, but because somewhere along the way you've spent so much time taking care of everyone else, meeting expectations, surviving hard things, and carrying responsibilities that you've lost sight of the person God created you to be.

Maybe you've become the helper. The fixer. The peacemaker (aka peacefaker). The strong one. The responsible one.

Maybe you've spent years proving your worth through performance, people-pleasing, achievement, ministry, parenting, or simply holding everything together.

I know that struggle because I've lived it too.

In this episode, we're talking about what happens when trauma, family dysfunction, church hurt, loss, disappointment, unhealthy relationships, and painful life experiences begin shaping our identity more than God's truth.

We'll explore the difference between who you are and the survival strategies you developed to make it through difficult seasons. We'll look at how the Unhappy Kid Triangle often reveals the false identities we carry, why trauma distorts our core beliefs, and what Scripture teaches about who we truly are in Christ.

Most importantly, we'll talk about how healing isn't just about recovering from what happened to you.

It's about remembering who you are.

If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, perfectionism, codependency, shame, control, fear, or feeling disconnected from yourself and from God, I pray this conversation encourages you.

Friend, your identity is not your trauma. It is not your performance. It is not your mistakes. It is not the role you've played in your family.

Your identity is found in Christ.

And that changes everything.

xoxo,

Danielle

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