She said "I'm fine." You don't believe her. She's not sure she believes herself. I was that girl in the passenger seat. On the way to a basketball game, stomach churning, so tense I thought I might be sick. My mom, who loved me, gave me a pep talk. I didn't say a word back. I shut down and looked out the window the whole rest of the way. She wasn't wrong to try. It just wasn't what I needed. I didn't need to be motivated. I needed somebody to listen. This one's for both of you at the same time, mom and daughter, right there in the car. Because the problem is almost never that she won't talk. It's when you're asking, how you're sitting, and what words you're using. What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• What "I'm fine" actually means, and why it's usually not a lie
• Why the moment you most want to ask is the worst possible time to ask
• The reason hard conversations go better in the car than across the kitchen table
• Why using her slang closes the door instead of opening it
• What a girl needs before she needs advice

Your one step this week: Mom, take one drive and don't ask her anything. Not one question. Her music, eyes on the road, let the quiet sit. Baby sis, one time this week, swap "I'm fine" for "I don't know how to say it yet." Tuesday, we're talking about the girl who calls herself a perfectionist. High standards, likes things done right. Except she can't turn it off and she's exhausted, and what she's calling a personality trait is anxiety in a cute outfit. xo, Kristen 🎧 Follow the show so the next episode shows up for you. LET'S CONNECT! 🕊️ Free PEACE Playbook: anxiouschristianteen.com/peace 🫶🏻 Free community: anxiouschristianteen.com/community ❓ What Type of Anxious Teen Girl Are You?: anxiouschristianteen.com/quiz