Ever felt like you’re too quiet, too homey, or too introverted to be considered fun? Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) talk about the fear of being “boring,” why it hooks so deeply for sensitive and neurodivergent people, and how we can start reclaiming “boring” as peaceful, fulfilling, and ours.

We explore how Western culture glorifies loud, extroverted fun — and how those of us who prefer candles, crafts, and cozy nights in often end up questioning whether we’re missing something. Spoiler: we’re not.

This time we talked about:

🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): being told to “lighten up,” saying no to nights out, and wondering if we’re the “boring friend.”

👀 What it looks like in real life: comparing our quiet joy to others’ chaos, second-guessing how we’re perceived, and masking excitement in calmer forms.

🧠 Why our brains do it: social conditioning, rejection sensitivity, extrovert bias, and the survival drive to belong.

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: people-pleasing, pretending to enjoy things, or withdrawing altogether.

🧰 Coping mechanisms: self-acceptance, curiosity, redefining fun, and surrounding ourselves with people who “get it.”

🌱 How to make peace with it: what’s fun to you is valid — joy doesn’t need to be loud to be real.

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Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

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