This week I'm talking about kindness – but not kindness towards other people. Kindness towards yourself.

Most of the men I coach are good at being there for everyone else. They're supportive partners, good friends and reliable colleagues.

But they often hold themselves to a completely different standard.

They expect themselves to cope, keep striving, have the answers and get things right. And when they don't, they can be incredibly hard on themselves.

In this episode, I talk about self-compassion and why it isn't the same as letting yourself off the hook.

You can be ambitious, driven and want more from your life while still treating yourself with a bit more kindness along the way.

In this episode, I talk about:

• Why we often speak to ourselves in ways we'd never speak to someone we care about.
• How self-compassion doesn't mean lowering your standards or making excuses.
• The particular pressures that can build up for men in their 40s and 50s.
• Why this stage of life might be exactly when you need to give yourself a break.
• Some simple questions to help you notice where you're being too hard on yourself.
• Why giving yourself permission to explore a happier, more fulfilling career can be an act of self-compassion too.

Wanting a career that fits you better doesn't make you greedy or ungrateful.

Sometimes one of the kindest things you can do for yourself is admit that something isn't working and give yourself permission to explore what could.

Want to talk it through?

If you'd like some space to think about what's going on for you and what you might need to change, you can book a free 30-minute discovery call with me.

It's a relaxed conversation to get to know each other, talk about what's happening for you and see whether I can help.

Book your free discovery call: https://tidycal.com/3o42vom/30-minute-meeting

Visit my website: https://www.twentytwentycoaching.co.uk/

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