Passive aggression is the emotional sabotage dressed as politeness that is silently draining your team's energy and trust. Tammy J. Bond pulls back the curtain on this pervasive workplace toxicity, revealing that leaders who ignore it aren't keeping the peace—they're preserving the problem. With over 50% of employees reporting being targeted by passive aggression, this episode provides direct, no-fluff strategies for leaders and middle managers to confront this "camouflaged conflict" and restore health to their teams.

• The High Cost of Avoidance: Passive aggression is leadership quicksand. Over half your team may be spending mental energy decoding tone and mannerisms instead of focusing on their jobs.

• The Source of Passive Aggression: It's not about conflict; it's about control. Passive aggressive individuals avoid direct confrontation but use sarcasm, silence, or "forgetfulness" to pull strings and be the master puppeteer.

• The Leadership Leak: Passive aggression is cowardly communication in leadership's clothing.Ignoring it rewards avoidance and reinforces the toxic pattern. Leaders must stop rescuing people from discomfort and start coaching them through it.

• Coaching vs. Dictating: Workplace coaching is not the "point, shoot, and tell" style. True coaching is being curious, asking questions, and evoking answers that help people up-level themselves.

• Directness is Respect: If you are serious about creating a sandbox where adults talk to one another, you must teach the team that healthy directness is respect, not rudeness.

You don't tiptoe through the tulips; you call the behavior what it is.

1. Name It and Claim It: Do not over-explain or accuse. Simply name the specific behavior you observe and tie it back to a core value.
   Example: "I'm noticing sarcasm when we talk about deadlines. Help me understand what's really going on, because sarcasm is not one of our espoused values."

2. Model Clarity and Accountability: Use the clear, simple framework of the SBI+E Model (Situation, Behavior, Impact, and Expectation) for a straightforward, behavioral conversation.

3. Set the Boundary and Hold It: The only way to stop the "leak" is to confront it. Document it, discuss it, and model how to clean up the conflict.

If your leader is the passive-aggressive player, don't accuse them directly. Bring the clarity back to them:

1. Expose the Behavior, Not the Person: Present the situation and the unaligned behavior you've noticed on the team.

2. Ask for Their Strategy: Ask the leader, "How would you go about approaching these behaviors when they have the impact that's causing others to shut down?"

3. Gain the Framework: Let the passive-aggressive leader give you the expectation and solution, then use that framework to present the required behavioral changes.

The next time a coworker drops an "I'm just kidding" that lands like a knife, don't laugh it off. Push pause, take a breath, and ask your next best question. Leadership is about keeping everyone accountable.