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Host: Jarvis T. Gray, The Quality Coaching Co.
Guest: Dr. Nancy Moonstar, author and psychologist, “A Man’s Guide to Intimacy”

Episode Highlights

Introduction

• Jarvis T. Gray welcomes listeners to the Health Biz Spotlight series, focusing on healthcare and wellness entrepreneurs. (00:00)
• Dr. Nancy Moonstar is introduced as an author and psychologist specializing in men's intimacy and connection.

Dr. Nancy Moonstar’s Path to Intimacy Coaching

• Five threads led to her current work, including:
  • Personal online dating experiences.
  • Early career questions from men about sexuality and masculinity.
  • Turning her continuing education focus toward men’s sexual health.
  • Learning about “stages” of intimacy from academic sources.
  • Work in the prison system with men grappling with intimacy and boundary issues.
• The Me Too movement galvanized her to act, aiding men to heal and improve relationships. (02:17)
• Dr. Nancy Moonstar shares her “five stages of intimacy” framework. (04:32)

The Impact of Dr. Nancy Moonstar’s Work

• Men who work with her experience:
  • Improved communication and connection with partners.
  • Acceptance and confidence regarding their intimate selves.
  • The courage to discuss sex and romance openly.
• Rituals—small, consistent actions—are key to fostering intimacy.
• Feedback from clients: Men feel understood, encouraged, and experience shifts in how women respond to them. (11:14)

Practical Tips for Men and Couples

• How men can open conversations about intimacy and romance.
• The power of rituals like shared meals, breathing together, and daily check-ins.
• The importance of introducing novelty and attentiveness to their partners. (14:03)

Business Growth & The Challenge of Selling Services

• Dr. Nancy Moonstar expresses discomfort and fear around “selling.”
• Jarvis T. Gray reframes selling as “invitation” to solve problems.
• Discussion of clinical confidence, positioning, and building a market-dominating proposition (ex: Domino’s 30-min pizza promise). (24:09)
• Suggestions for naming offers to highlight results, e.g. “Better Sex For Life Program.” (37:01)

Developing and Selling the Year-Long Couples Program

• Dr. Nancy Moonstar describes her immersive year-long, virtual couples coaching program.
  • Jumpstart weekend via Zoom.
  • Ongoing monthly coaching, email support, and emergency calls.
  • Tailored lessons addressing each couple’s unique pain points.
• Target client: Heterosexual couples (but applicable to all), especially men committed to meaningful personal growth and emotional presence.
• The importance of clarity, accountability, and supportive structure in relationship work. (29:13)

Business Best Practices & Lead Generation

• Key strategies:
  • Event marketing (webinars, summits) for lead generation.
  • Discovery/enrollment calls structured as exploration, clinical insight, recommendation, invitation.
  • Building detailed client avatars to refine messaging and offers.
• Time management tips: “Time To Think” and “Time To Measure” built into the daily schedule.
• Encouragement: Stay persistent for the sake of those who need the help, even if it’s just one man. (56:22)

Connect with Dr. Nancy Moonstar

• Website: amansguidetointimacy.com
• Free cheat sheet available on her website.
• Instagram: @amansguidetointimacy
• Book: “A Man’s Guide to Pleasuring His Partner: The Five Stages of Intimacy, from Conversation to Penetration” available on Amazon (search “all books” to bypass adult filters).
• Immersion program and contact options available via her website. (57:21)

Thank you for listening!
For show links, resources, and more from Jarvis T. Gray and Dr. Nancy Moonstar, see the episode description.

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