In this heartfelt and insightful conversation, John Marshall sits down with Humessence coach, mentor, and dear friend Don Fries to explore the deeper dimensions of coaching and leadership development. Drawing from a 38-year career in the oil and gas industry and his journey into executive and retirement coaching, Don shares how leaders can build self-awareness, embrace vulnerability, and stop getting in their own way. The conversation dives into the power of shifting from "I need to" to "I want to," the importance of values-based coaching, and a practical framework — the Control, Influence, and Accept model — that helps leaders reclaim their time, priorities, and presence. A rich and authentic episode for anyone looking to lead more intentionally and live more fully.

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Takeaways

• Self-awareness is the starting point for meaningful leadership growth.
• Shifting from "I need to change" to "I want to change" transforms motivation and accountability.
• Values-based coaching helps clients align their actions with what matters most to them.
• Leaders who share their development goals create psychological safety for their entire team.
• Vulnerability is not weakness — it is one of the most powerful leadership tools available.
• The Control, Influence, Accept model is a practical framework for managing overwhelm and reclaiming priorities.
• Saying yes to everything means silently saying no to yourself, your team, or your strategy.
• You cannot change people against their will — you can only influence their will to change by doing work on yourself.
• Consistency in small habits is far more powerful than intensity or duration.
• Being truly present is one of the greatest gifts a leader can offer their team.

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Thank you for listening.

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