In this wrap-up conversation for the Presence over Perfection theme, we sit down with our first guest father, Joel Kovacs, to explore what presence looks like over the long haul. This episode steps back from tactics and zooms out to the deeper work of fatherhood: how presence, health, and intentionality shape who our kids become over time.

We explore the tension many dads feel between providing, leading, and staying emotionally connected. This episode confronts the reality that being physically present is not the same as being emotionally safe, and that influence with our kids is built slowly through trust, consistency, and humility, not control or perfection.

In This Episode:

• How early assumptions about fatherhood often form unconsciously

• The difference between being reactionary as a dad and leading with intention

• Why healing your own story matters for how your kids experience you

• How presence creates influence, especially as kids grow into their teenage years

• The role of trust, emotional safety, and timing in shaping your child’s growth

• Learning when to speak, when to listen, and when to wait

• Why leadership in the home is more about influence than authority

Key Themes:

• Presence as a long-term investment

• Emotional health and self-awareness

• Influence built through trust

• Leadership through humility and clarity

• Intentional parenting over reactive parenting

Takeaway:

Presence is not a momentary choice, it is a posture built over years. This episode reminds us that our kids are always learning from who we are when we show up, not just from what we say. Growth in fatherhood requires both action and inner work, choosing to lead even when we feel unprepared, while committing to become healthier along the way. When fathers pursue presence with humility and intention, they create space for trust, influence, and lasting connection that carries far beyond childhood.