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🔴 LIVE DISCUSSION: Kinks vs Fetishes — Understanding Desire, Boundaries, and Exploration

People hear the word kink and immediately think extremes. Chains. Whips. Taboo. Something only other people are into.

But the truth is far more nuanced.

In this episode of the Swingz Podcast, Drew and Erika break down the real difference between kinks and fetishes, where desire actually comes from, and why navigating curiosity in the lifestyle takes more maturity than most people expect.

This isn’t a shock-value episode. It’s a grounded conversation about psychology, consent, boundaries, and knowing when exploration adds depth — and when it’s time to pause or walk away.

We also dive into:

Why most people have kinks (and why that’s normal)

When preference turns into dependency

Why consent is the starting point — not the finish line

How bad experiences reshape desire

Why lifestyle spaces require higher emotional intelligence

Plus, we’re celebrating 10 years of LifeInStyleSTL with a LIVE Valentine’s X ticket giveaway (rules announced only during the show).

🎟️ LIFEINSTYLESTL VALENTINE’S X — FREE TICKET GIVEAWAY

📅 February 13–14, 2026
🏨 Two-night hotel takeover
🎶 Live music, DJs, pool parties, room crawl, and more

➡️ Giveaway rules are shared live during the episode only.

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🧠 SOURCES REFERENCED

• Lehmiller, J. (2018). Tell Me What You Want
• YouGov America Sexual Attitudes Survey (2015)
• DSM-5-TR (APA)
• Wright et al. (2020). Archives of Sexual Behavior
• Connolly, P. (2006)

If this episode made you think, drop a comment and tell us what landed.
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Keep it honest. Keep it consensual.
— Drew & Erika Swingz