Reality is not merely a fact; Reality is a story. Reality is not an ordinary story; Reality is a love story. Reality is not an ordinary love story; Reality is an Evolutionary Love story.

The plotline of the story is the Evolution of Love. This plotline follows a pattern.

This pattern is not dialectical (two) but trialectical (three).

The pattern is the Three Stations of Eros.

The Three Stations of Eros is the core pattern of Reality.

In Solomon lineage of Hebrew mysticism these Three Stations are called submission, separation and sweetening. In developmental psychology, the same meta phenomenology is referred to as identification, dis-identification, and re-identification (integration). These are the mysterious triads of the evolution of love. They describe the three stations of consciousness which an awake person evolves through in virtually every sphere of life.

We all recognize this pattern as it appears in our own lives, for example, in reference to our direct experience of falling love.

Station one: We fall in love.

Station two: We experience separation. We lose access to the feeling of being in love.

Station three: we find our way back—we fall in love again, this time with greater depth and wholeness. At this third station we are quite literally lived as love.

The Three Stations of Eros apply not only to falling in love but to all domains of life.

The capacity to recognize the Three Stations—to stay in and to not get derailed at station two, but instead to deepen, ascend and transform into station three—is the single most important skill we need to live a great life, to be truly successful, or to put it more clearly, to be lived as great Love.

Each sequence of the Three Stations of Love is a unique vector in the evolution of love, the irreducibly unique journey of Eros which is the purpose of a unique human life.