This episode explores how the postpartum period reshapes both the individual and the couple, especially when one partner has given birth and the other has not. Melanie and Kevin are joined by Haley Yatros and Krystal LaCoy to talk about identity shifts, relationship strain, and why postpartum often lasts much longer than people expect. We discuss the emotional and relational realities that can show up after a baby arrives, from sleep deprivation and hormone changes to resentment, attachment shifts, anxiety, and the pressure to “bounce back.” The conversation centers on normalizing how different this stage can look for every couple and why support matters for both partners.

Episode Chapters

08:06 - Rapid fire: “Nobody warned me that postpartum would blank”

10:09 - How parenthood changes both partners in different ways

17:32 - How postpartum changes the identity of the couple itself

27:15 - Mental health concerns can emerge or intensify during pregnancy and postpartum

32:02 - Preparing for mental health struggles during pregnancy

43:14 - Don’t wait if postpartum does not feel right - support and treatment

Recommended Resources

• And Baby Makes Three (John Gottman PhD. & Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD.)
• Gottman Card Deck

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• Melanie Freeland - Website | Psychology Today
• Kevin Dykstra - Website | Psychology Today
• Hailey Yatros - Website | Psychology Today
• Krystal Lacoy - Website | Psychology Today

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