Dr. Rob is joined by compatibility specialist Jena Jake. Together they discuss the power of feeling a pain so strong that you are finally ready to stop self-abandoning. They explore the importance of awareness and boundaries, what it looks like to build a life alone, and strategies for carefully choosing the self-talk and blaming that so many of us face in unhealthy relationships.

TAKEAWAYS:

[2:03] Jena’s transition from marital therapy to executive coaching.

[3:35] What are we looking for when choosing a partner?

[6:07] Identifying patterns that feel like love.

[8:42] Jena’s ABA formula, including awareness and healthy boundaries.

[12:24] Your inner self needs you to stop giving yourself away.

[15:10] Facing your wake up moment.

[17:00] Yes, you can build a life alone.

[17:53] Seen, safe, supported, sought after and satisfied.

[22:28] Rebuilding trust after betrayal.

[27:55] Be careful about self-talk and blame.

[29:50] Jena’s healing journey.

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101

Seeking Integrity

Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment

Partner Sexuality Survey

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES:

• “What feels familiar isn’t always what’s aligned or what’s good for you.”
• “Stop setting yourself on fire to keep everyone else warm.”
• “You may not have gotten better, but you did deserve better.”
• “I don’t have to trust you, but I do have to trust myself.”