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You Are Not Your Partner's Mother, Sponsor, or Dumping Ground: Boundaries and Trusting Your Gut with Rhyll Croshaw (Rise Season 2, Episode 17)

You Are Not Your Partner's Mother, Sponsor, or Dumping Ground: Boundaries and Trusting Your Gut with Rhyll Croshaw (Rise Season 2, Episode 17)

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 You Are Not Your Partner's Mother, Sponsor, or Dumping Ground: Boundaries and Trusting Your Gut with Rhyll Croshaw (Rise Season 2, Episode 17) In this powerful episode of Rise: Hope and Healing After Sexual Betrayal, MaryAnn Michaelis LCSW, CSAT, CPTT is joined by Rhyll Croshaw, a pioneer in betrayal trauma recovery, author of "What Can I Do About Me?",and co-founder of the SA Lifeline Foundation and SAL12step.org. Rhyll brings decades of lived experience, professional insight, and grounded wisdom to a conversation that speaks directly to one of the most confusing and painful parts of recovery after betrayal: How do I hold boundaries and learn to trust myself again when I’ve been conditioned to doubt my gut? In this episode, Rhyll shares her story of 53 years of marriage and insights learned from 32 years of betrayal trauma recovery work, including: what happens when betrayed partners find themselves over-functioning in relationships—becoming the emotional regulator, caretaker, or unintended “dumping ground” for their partner’s emotions, recovery work, or instability. At the heart of this conversation is a powerful truth: You are not your partner’s mother. You are not their sponsor. You are not their emotional dumping ground. And learning this boundary distinction is a critical part of healing. In This Episode, We Explore: Why betrayed partners often lose trust in their own intuition and gut instinctsHow external voices (partner, sponsor, family, culture) can override internal knowingThe emotional cost of becoming the “dumping ground” in a relationshipWhy boundaries are not rejection—they are role clarificationThe difference between supporting someone and over-functioning for themWhat it means to practice compassionate detachingHow to recognize when you are carrying emotions that are not yours to holdWhy trusting your gut is a recovery skill, not an automatic ability Key Takeaways: Your gut is not broken—it has been drowned out by survival and confusionBoundaries are about identity, roles, and emotional safetyYou cannot be someone’s partner, parent, and sponsor all at onceCompassion does not require emotional over-responsibilityHealing includes learning to say: “This is not mine to carry.” Powerful Themes in This Episode: Trusting Your Gut After betrayal, intuition often becomes clouded by fear, doubt, and conflicting messages. Relearning to listen to yourself is central to recovery. Boundaries as Role Clarity Boundaries are not punishment or withdrawal—they define what is and is not yours to hold in a relationship. Compassionate Detaching Detaching does not mean abandoning love. It means staying connected to yourself while releasing responsibility for what belongs to another adult. Emotional Over-Responsibility Many betrayed partners unconsciously become emotional caretakers for their spouse’s recovery or regulation—at great personal cost. Memorable Quotes & Concepts: “You are not your partner’s sponsor, mother, or dumping ground.”“Boundaries aren’t rejection—they’re role correction.”“Your gut still speaks, but too many voices have been louder than it.”“Detaching with compassion means I care—but I don’t carry what isn’t mine.” Hope & Healing Reminder: Recovery is not just about understanding betrayal—it is about reclaiming yourself. Learning to trust your gut, hold boundaries, and step out of over-responsibility is not selfish. It is foundational to healing, clarity, and emotional safety. Resources & References: What Can I Do About Me? by Rhyll CroshawDopamine Nation by Anna LembkeSA Lifeline Foundation https://salifeline.orgSAL 12 Step https://sal12step.orgThe Recovery Puzzle Recovery Circles ModelRise online companion course Boundary Basics online courseHuman Intimacy online courses - communication, relationships, The Intimacy Repair MethodGABIS - the Grief After Betrayal Impact Scale Survey - Contribute to our Resarch! Share This Episode If this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who may be: second-guessing their intuitioncarrying emotional responsibility that isn’t theirslearning to set or hold boundaries after betrayal
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