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Why Relaxation Sometimes Makes You Feel Worse (And What Real Regulation Actually Is)

Why Relaxation Sometimes Makes You Feel Worse (And What Real Regulation Actually Is)

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 Welcome to The Berne Podcast. I’m Dr. Sam Berne. Today I want to talk about something that surprises a lot of people. Why do some people feel worse when they try to relax? They meditate. They lie down. They do breathwork. They get massage. And instead of feeling better, they feel: • dizzy • foggy • emotional • disconnected • heavy • or strangely unsettled Most people assume that means something is wrong with them. But very often, it doesn’t. It means their nervous system doesn’t need relaxation. It needs regulation. Those are not the same thing. ⸻ SEGMENT 1 — RELAXATION VS REGULATION Let’s clarify this first. Relaxation usually means: • slowing down • becoming passive • reducing effort • letting go Regulation is different. Regulation means: • organized input • coherent movement • balanced sensory information • a felt sense of safety • connection between body and brain Relaxation can sometimes lead to collapse. Regulation leads to coherence. And for sensitive nervous systems, collapse feels terrible. ⸻ SEGMENT 2 — WHY SOME PEOPLE FEEL WORSE WHEN THEY “RELAX” Here’s what I see clinically. Many people are living in chronic sympathetic activation — always on, always alert, always processing. So when they suddenly stop: • lie still • close their eyes • slow their breathing their system doesn’t experience relief. It experiences loss of orientation. The brain loses reference points. The vestibular system gets confused. The body doesn’t know where it is in space. That can show up as: • dizziness • drifting sensations • emotional flooding • fatigue • or a sense of disappearing That’s not healing. That’s nervous-system disorganization. ⸻ SEGMENT 3 — SENSITIVE SYSTEMS NEED ORGANIZED INPUT This is especially true for people who are: • intuitive • perceptually sensitive • highly empathic • creative • or have spent years taking care of others These nervous systems don’t respond well to passive interventions. They need: • gentle rhythmic movement • bilateral coordination • distance vision • light resistance • agency — meaning you choose the pace In other words: They need participation, not collapse. They need engagement, not shutdown. ⸻ SEGMENT 4 — COMMON EXAMPLES You might recognize this if you’ve ever: • felt worse after yoga • gotten foggy after meditation • felt disconnected after massage • crashed after a “relaxing” weekend • or become emotional when you finally slow down That doesn’t mean those practices are bad. It means they weren’t matched to your nervous system at that moment. Healing is not about forcing calm. It’s about restoring organization. ⸻ SEGMENT 5 — WHAT REAL REGULATION FEELS LIKE Real regulation usually feels like: • warmth returning to your body • clearer thinking • easier breathing • smoother movement • a sense of being present • feeling more like yourself Not floaty. Not collapsed. Not spaced out. More embodied. More here. That’s coherence. ⸻ SEGMENT 6 — PRACTICAL GUIDANCE Here’s something simple you can start noticing: After something you do — movement, therapy, rest, or even a conversation — ask yourself: Do I feel more embodied… or more disconnected? Do I feel clearer… or foggier? Do I feel more myself… or less? Your nervous system gives feedback immediately. That’s your compass. And here’s an important principle: If something costs you regulation, it’s not aligned. No matter how “good” it’s supposed to be. ⸻ SEGMENT 7 — THIS IS NOT ABOUT FIXING YOUR BODY I don’t believe in fixing bodies. I believe in restoring relationship. Relationship between: • your nervous system • your movement • your perception • your environment Healing happens when the system feels safe enough to reorganize itself. Not when we impose calm from the outside. ⸻ CLOSING + INVITATION If you’ve been feeling confused by your symptoms… If relaxation hasn’t been helping… If you sense that your nervous system needs something different… This is exactly the kind of work I do privately. In Vision Intensives, I help people restore nervous-system coherence, perceptual clarity, and embodied regulation. Not through quick fixes. Through listening to how your system actually works. And remember: Your body isn’t failing you. It’s communicating. Trust that.
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